If it Makes You Happy.... (16)

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20 Apr 08, 8:33 PM
Original_Rebel
UK(CT), 7 yrs

alexandraa wrote:
and by the way, Alzheimer's is more prevalent among those who are overweight.... I so need to get back on that diet....

I work with Alzheimers sufferers and only one of them is overweight.
Owned and very happy about it

20 Apr 08, 9:06 PM
alexandraa
UK(NW), 5 yrs

scribbles wrote:
I once read that happiness is a state that can only be remembered, never experienced in the present. I think consumerism, the cult of self-help, and certain shallow mis-understandings of religion can exacerbate this. I'd agree with Augusta that effectively counting your blessings regularly is a good idea.
I think many things bring me happiness, satisfaction, self esteem, fulfillment, it's a complex mix and hard to split one from another. But yes, it is something that comes from within, an inner peace and happiness.
One key philosophy I try to follow is to balance my expectations. You will most certainly live an unhappy life if your expectations always stretch too far, reach beyond your means, expect more from people than they are able to give. That is not to say we should not be ambitious. I think you would enjoy reading this book, Status Anxiety, Alain de Botton, which explains what I mean in far more detail -
http://www.alaindebotton.com/status.asp

Be careful what you wish for

20 Apr 08, 9:09 PM
alexandraa
UK(NW), 5 yrs

augusta wrote:
But if you have that inner core of contentment with yourself then those outside factors that might influence your mood won't necessarily impact on your fundamental sense of happiness.

Bang on the money.... which as we know.... can't buy happiness...

Be careful what you wish for

20 Apr 08, 9:21 PM
alexandraa
UK(NW), 5 yrs

PFLsAgain wrote:
It's worth a read through particularly for the contention in concluding paragraph that enforcement of monogamy, particularly in developing societies, does not serve the cause of equality between the sexes.
Very interesting article. Simplifying it, does it not say.... women generally seek the alpha male and the alpha male will always seek to have more than one partner? I think I wrote a blog along those lines about 3 or 4 years ago.
Be careful what you wish for

20 Apr 08, 9:24 PM
alexandraa
UK(NW), 5 yrs

OwnedByChartreuse wrote:
I work with Alzheimers sufferers and only one of them is overweight.
The more I think about it the more I wonder on the truth behind that latest report on Alzheimers, and just how balanced the research behind it was. I suppose you can make any research tell you what you want to hear if you steer it that way.
Be careful what you wish for

21 Apr 08, 8:45 AM
lucky_1
UK, 3 yrs
Cracking blog, I do love it when you write, please do it more often
Can't agree more on the pursuit of happiness, actually you can't pursue it, you can be ambitious but you can't actually pursue happiness.
I think you can experience happiness in the present, one moment on Saturday when capi and I got home to find hunny and Hive had popped it. I came out of the bedroom and the house was filled with laughter. A small moment but one that made me happy. Can't buy that.
Happiness can't be defined by monogamy or sexual orientation either. It because I'm so happy with capi and J that we fly in the face of societal convention to live as a three.
Also agree on the alpha male mating habits. Tomcats, that's what they are.
I'm in my own world. It's Ok, they know me here.


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