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| Thu 3 Apr 08, 4:38 PM Mistress_Ruinatrix 5 yrs £  |
As you may have seen some of my posts I am setting up a dungeon near Wolverhampton town centre, I was wondering if any of you had any second hand items you wanted to sell or donate, as I am funding it entirely myself any help would be appreciated, sadly I cannot ake it to the purple palace because of work, so just enquiring to see if anyone could help Go for your dreams, if you don't they might not ever come true. Edited Thu 3 Apr 08, 4:43 PM by Mistress_Ruinatrix | |
| 3 Apr 08, 5:41 PM Mistress_Sapphire_UK UK(NW), 10 yrs £  |
Maybe I am reading this wrong.....you are funding your dungeon yourself, as opposed to what? Do we not all fund our own dungeon/playspace?
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| 3 Apr 08, 11:09 PM Kitti_Whitaker 6 yrs |
I guess second hand is cheaper and I am sure there are also subs who are happy to buy/donate a few things, because they genuinely enjoy pleasing someone and/or to be of use.
I have had people buying me things and said I should turn to a pro, because I have a big aura. I have no plans to turn into a pro, but I am sure these people felt that they could play a part in paving my way to success. These were people I didn't know and they didn't expect me to play with them in return. (giving someone something they didn't ask for and then expecting something in return is a bit sneaky in my view) The subs I am close to I am proud of and want them to develop, I guess buying/donating equipment is the same kind of thing. Edited 3 Apr 08, 11:18 PM by Kitti_Whitaker | |
| 4 Apr 08, 12:01 AM Mistress_Ruinatrix 5 yrs £ |
As it is my first venture into becoming a Pro Domme, and at the moment I only work part time, money is a bit limited as to what I can and cannot afford to start up with, my only crime is asking if anyone had any second hand things they no longer required. I am quite aware that professional Dommes must fund their own dungeons, but when they started up who knows what financial stage they were at in life. and is it so bad to ask for help???? Go for your dreams, if you don't they might not ever come true. | |
| 4 Apr 08, 8:11 AM storm999 UK, 4 yrs |
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| 4 Apr 08, 9:09 AM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
Nobody said you shouldn't ask. I find Mistress Sapphire's curiosity legitimate, she's asking form her own experience. My own experience, too: I am self-funded. Start small and buy or accept only the items you feel comfortable using. When I was starting, someone gave me a St Andrews cross which I eventually gave to someone else, because I've never felt much affinity to that particular piece of furniture. Think what you need the most, and start from there. I'd also recommend that you find a handy friend who may be able to make something for you. Making your own stuff is cheaper too. And remember, too, that a play space is always a work in progress. Cultivate your inner whore Edited 4 Apr 08, 9:10 AM by Ms_Tytania | |
| 4 Apr 08, 8:31 PM Penny_Louise 5 yrs |
Setting up a play space is a huge undertaking, and sad in many ways because you know you need the kit to create the right impression, while at the same time, you know your hands, a bit of rope and a perhaps a bamboo pole is all you need to completely restrain, dominate and play someone well. The more you can do yourself, the better. Have you enough practical ability, for instance, to learn to do your own leather work? It saves a fortune on straps, cuffs and gags, and then you can start to major on the leather kit, which diminishes the fact that there's no whipping bench, for instance. Lx Life coaching especially, but not only, for submissives. Domination only for submissives! Kinky Cottage Playrooms for hire, a great alternative to B+B. | |
| 5 Apr 08, 1:07 AM Mistress_Ruinatrix 5 yrs £ |
I have already got some equipment, and already have an idea on what I want to create the right impression, My skills at the moment are limited, but as time goes on I will get better, and already know a lot of rope work, and training Japanese rope work at the moment. As with everything you have to start somewhere and I look forward to the road ahead Go for your dreams, if you don't they might not ever come true. | |
| 5 Apr 08, 11:10 AM Mistress_Sapphire_UK UK(NW), 10 yrs £ |
Who said anything was a crime? and who said you should not ask for help. Why do you think I wrote the prefix, that I might be reading this wrong. A lot of Dommes, myself included were lifestyle before becoming professional so therefore our equipment/impliments have been bought over many years.My advice is when you are buying implements, go for one quality piece than several "bedroom titillation" pieces. There are a lot of very experienced subs/bottoms/players around that know the difference......even if you blindfold them You are lucky that when you are starting out, there are forums such as this and BDSM equipment etc(new or secondhand) is available to the masses. I dont think back in my day of contact mags asking for equipment to start up professionally would of gone down too well. Edited to add....... You are right, you do not know what financial position any of us were in when going Pro, but all the the Pros I know do not carry the surname of Rothschild.
Edited 5 Apr 08, 11:15 AM by Mistress_Sapphire_UK | |
| 5 Apr 08, 12:10 PM Mistress_Ruinatrix 5 yrs £ |
Thank you for your advice Mistress Saphire. your absolutely right, I doubt asking for things second hand in contact mags would have gone down well, and we are lucky to have such things as these forums now.
As for my original posting, maybe I worded it wrong but not intentionally trying to make it out as if noone else funded their dungeons.
Of course we all have to start somewhere and being on a very limited budget as prob most people are was just wondering what was the best way to start.
I have been fortunate and have come across some very nice people all willing to lend a hand setting it all up, looks like I have wet a few peoples appetite. I have got a friend who is going to help me design and build it, so look forward to his expertise, he has been in the scene a lot longer than me. Go for your dreams, if you don't they might not ever come true. | |
| 5 Apr 08, 12:30 PM Mistress_Sapphire_UK UK(NW), 10 yrs £ |
I wish you the very best in your new venture. Please feel free to memo me if you need any advise.
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