Posted by wildethyme
on Tue 4 Mar 08, 11:52 PM to wildethyme's blog.
Another day....another set of tears.
My GP says I'm depressed. More pills. Another sick note.
I went to see a counsellor attached to the GP practice. She was better that I thought she'd be. A good listener. But what I really wanted to talk about was about being a submissive, trying to rediscover myself after such a long D/s relationship, trying to understand how I can be fulfilled as a submissive.
Is there anyone out there who has positive experiences of kink-friendly therapy?
I drafted an email to my ex-Dom but I haven't sent it yet. I am angry with him, angry with myself, and yet making the final break feels like cutting my heart out.
| 5 Mar 08, 12:13 AM krystle UK(NE), 8 yrs  |
Hi. trying to deal with the end of a long-term relationship is traumatic enough, without factoring in the submissive element. Im not great at advice, but i can recommend you look at the forums on Bondage.com. Specifically they have a relationships forum dealing with issues such as this, and whilst alot of it might be irrelevant, there's some pretty good advice in there if you hunt it out. Advice on dealing with the end of a relationship in general, and in particular as a submissive too. here's the link http://bondage.com/forum_id/30/forums/forum.html You will probably find people in a similar situation too, and they are pretty good at support. There is a mentor list too, although i cant vouch for it as i havent use3d it. But when my last relationship broke up, i did find it helpful.
And feel free to contact me if you would like a friendly, understanding ear Hope you feel stronger and better soon x | |
| 5 Mar 08, 12:20 AM abby1983 UK(KA), 7 yrs |
It's hard and that cutting senstion of the heart can last a lot longer than in a non bdsm relatiosnhip. Love is love no matter who you have it with and it will always be soul destroying when that ends. Another time when people will tell you 'to be strong' that 'things will get easier' and 'time will heal' and often they are right but it's not what you want to hear at the time. You want to hear of how horrible he is, yet you defend him. You want to hear how wrong he was for you, yet you try everything in your power to counteract what people are saying. You see the good where people see bad and then believe people just don't 'understand' what you had. But yet they do understand, they have often been there and felt what you are feeling. They know you will pull through in time and in time you will. The heart ripping feelings soon disappear. But taking those first steps to break free from the emotional bind is hard. You will feel crap doing it. You will feel crap for weeks, possibly months after, but in a year or so you'll look back and see it was the best thing to do. In doing so it will make you stronger yet make you weaker in the future. Stronger in the fact you will learn to deal with it but weaker in the sense of you will slowly learn to distrust people and walls and barriers will be built higher and stronger. At least the next time you let those walls down you will know it took a strong perons to get through them and they are worth it. You will get through it.. Give it time and you will feel better. As for a kink friendly counsellour then no I've never come across one but I have found opening up to the people I trust has really helped me in the past. Keep your chin up, things will get better, I promise and you know where I am if you ever need an ear... abby xx Edited 5 Mar 08, 12:21 AM by abby1983 | |
| 5 Mar 08, 1:11 PM babycakes UK(SA), 6 yrs |
Pehaps someone like this could help you? She has a banner on this site or the following profile: | |
| 5 Mar 08, 2:39 PM The_Counsellor UK(WA), 5 yrs |
I am one if that is any help. I have had many ic people come to me as clients. I also specialise in relationships. The Counsellor Kink Friendly Counselling and Therapy Let me help you to be the best you that you can be |
