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| 25 Feb 08, 5:23 PM autumndusk JP, 4 yrs £ |
Wise words from everyone! I can honestly say that you've helped me make my peace with this. I love this site sometimes!! Thanks for taking the time x x 'the queerest of the queer, the strangest of the strange' - Shirley Manson | |
| 25 Feb 08, 5:48 PM FetishJess UK(BN), 5 yrs   |
I recently changed my label to a masochistic bottom with sub tendencies. I don't how long that one will last and I don't mind it altering in the future. I am sure I will always stay that side of the fence though, just it might be in a different guise. www.fetiqueuk.com www.brightonfab.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhKU-tmSQR8 | |
| 25 Feb 08, 5:52 PM De_Luxe UK, 5 yrs |
Stop you, nah, you are enjoying yourself. A Dom-ain even. I like it when people smile. | |
| 25 Feb 08, 7:55 PM SueMtv UK(NG), 7 yrs |
I always used to shy away from 'pain' until I tried out a flogging at the Domme-ain night last November - and found I enjoyed it. Want to try more now...but just a little unsure how much more | |
| 25 Feb 08, 8:05 PM Elven_Eyes UK, 5 yrs |
Interesting mix this- my love is a masochist and loves to be beaten, but during play I cannot bring myself to humiliate or feminise him in any way. I just can't, it feels wrong. I, on the other hand, love humiliation and degradation play, but I can't take pain any more serious than the occasional spank or slap (working in that, though). We suit eachother anyway. "The chaperon is there to make sure no one else has any fun, but nobody chaperons the chaperon. That's why I'm so right for this job." -Jane Russell as Dorothy Shaw, "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes" | |
| 25 Feb 08, 8:10 PM XxDark_SerenityxX 5 yrs |
i can understand your stance completely..... having considered this very issue myself. i hate feeling humiliated......it just raises my hackles. i dont consider myself submissive very often...though i will show Master respect and love to sit at His feet or let Him care and make the decisions. When i judge my own submission against that of others....it seems lacking and makes me feel useless. i love His pain when i am in the zone....but even that at times can make me recoil...... So i am left just being me....trying desperately not to fit myself into any neat box.... without a label...cos it just serves to frustrate me . Cut me, bite me....See me bleed and watch as i savour the sweet salty taste of the essence of life. For only when i feel the pain of Your caress do i know i am alive and free. | |
| 25 Feb 08, 8:11 PM moltenhoney UK(M), 12 yrs |
What a wonderful way to put it honey x
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| 25 Feb 08, 8:36 PM Giggle_Piggle UK(WR), 5 yrs |
I dont seem to fit into any of the 'right' boxes either, sometimes it used to bother me, and i used to worry that i would never really sort it out in my head. Now i just get on with being me and i'm having a fab time | |
| 25 Feb 08, 8:37 PM TorturerUK UK, 6 yrs |
I started off from the "just plain pain" perspective to start with (albeit from the other side), and when I first encountered humiliation, D/s, etc they seemed to hold nothing for me. Over time and various experiences, they've become a major part of my sexual/kinky make-up. What you want in someone else might be specific, but if it's as important to you as it sounds, worth waiting for! To all those saying smy submission doesn't measure up to someone else's": Rubbish! - you can't measure it in any useful way, and it is (in my opinion) unique from relationship to relationship. "When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never tried before." - Mae West Edited 25 Feb 08, 8:41 PM by TorturerUK | |
| 25 Feb 08, 8:53 PM lucky_1 7 yrs |
Don't ever feel like that. We are all different, all different mixes, all with various experiences and drivers. What you are is unique so please don't ever do yourself down.
I'm in my own world. It's Ok, they know me here. |
