Theory: Why Dommes are scarce. (95)

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23 Feb 08, 9:12 AM
verte
UK(E), 6 yrs

SemiTrainedApe wrote:
Does anyone else hear Joan Rivers' voice when they read Bitchy Jones's posts?
Hahahahahahaha! I might do now.
http://sm-feminist.blogspot.com/
http://bppa.blogspot.com

23 Feb 08, 2:44 PM
Bitchy
UK, 8 yrs

verte wrote:

SemiTrainedApe wrote:
Does anyone else hear Joan Rivers' voice when they read Bitchy Jones's posts?
Hahahahahahaha! I might do now.
Yeek!
http://bitchyjones.com

23 Feb 08, 6:57 PM
bodski
UK(PR), 4 yrs

I suggest that both Doms and Dommes are rare (despite the statistics to the contrary - anyone can call themself a Dom/me).
Why ? Because it is a natural human condition to be submissive (or at least how we are conditioned to be in today's spociety.
Bod. ~O

23 Feb 08, 8:01 PM
Elysium
UK(EH), 3 yrs

bodski wrote:
I suggest that both Doms and Dommes are rare (despite the statistics to the contrary - anyone can call themself a Dom/me).
Why ? Because it is a natural human condition to be submissive (or at least how we are conditioned to be in today's spociety.
Bod. ~O
I completely disagree with this. There are times when it is dominant to be patient and do as you're told. Only to manuevre into a position where you can change things.
We are not conditioned by society to be submissive. We are conditioned by society to follow social norms. By virtue of identifying power dynamics in relationships within society we are questioning those norms. Whether we are submissive or dominant, society has nothing to do with how we define ourselves in that regard. It is about what we enjoy more and are more comfortable with.
Much like the person who is more comfortable being told what to do by their boss and the person who is more comfortable organising and creating the orders within a workplace. There are places for both within society. Society does not condition us one way or the other. It is more about individual circumstance and ability.

"I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve." - Albert Schweitzer.

23 Feb 08, 8:31 PM
bodski
UK(PR), 4 yrs

There are a LOT more indians than chiefs.

Deviant_Mind wrote:

bodski wrote:
I suggest that both Doms and Dommes are rare (despite the statistics to the contrary - anyone can call themself a Dom/me).
Why ? Because it is a natural human condition to be submissive (or at least how we are conditioned to be in today's spociety.
Bod. ~O
I completely disagree with this. There are times when it is dominant to be patient and do as you're told. Only to manuevre into a position where you can change things.
We are not conditioned by society to be submissive. We are conditioned by society to follow social norms. By virtue of identifying power dynamics in relationships within society we are questioning those norms. Whether we are submissive or dominant, society has nothing to do with how we define ourselves in that regard. It is about what we enjoy more and are more comfortable with.
Much like the person who is more comfortable being told what to do by their boss and the person who is more comfortable organising and creating the orders within a workplace. There are places for both within society. Society does not condition us one way or the other. It is more about individual circumstance and ability.


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