Come "out" as a submissive? (14)

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20 Feb 08, 7:57 PM
Sweetiejar
UK(S), 8 yrs
I so miss your blogs. And what's more I agree with everything you say here.
I dont expect submissives to be submissive to me just because. They are not MY submissive. Good manners, yes, just as I would treat them. I believe in saying please and thank you, just because someone is a submissive it doesnt mean anyone can give them instruction and expect it to be followed.
So many 'Dominants' dont understand this because they dont understand the nature of submission. I have said often and I am sure I will be saying it for many years....there are a lot of (particularly) male 'Dominants' who are only into BDSM because it allows them to abuse women, they take advantage of the vulnerable, ensnare the needy, and generally give us all a bad name.
Unfortunately there are fem subs out there who think its normal to be treated like that and they are the ones who I really feel sorry for. Some are so needy they will accept just about anything in order to feel that they are in that special place. Sadly they rarely are.
Submission is a wonderful gift to give someone, but it should never be forgotten that it can be taken back at any time. One still has the right to say 'NO' even if you are in a commited relationship.

Sweetiejar
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20 Feb 08, 8:54 PM
caprycorn
UK, 4 yrs
Y!
Greedy bitch, posting here as well as LJ! I should ration my applause. But then what the hell, it's a fucking fab blog so it deserves it
xxxxxx
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21 Feb 08, 8:22 AM
alexandraa
UK(NW), 5 yrs

caprycorn wrote:
Greedy bitch, posting here as well as LJ!

Well....... I felt it was appropriate for IC and that people might like to read it, which clearly they did.
But yes! I am greedy too......
Thank you everyone for your responses. Nice to feel my words welcomed.
xx

Be careful what you wish for

7 Mar 08, 2:11 PM
Scribbles
UK(RH), 16 mths
I've only just found you, so I hope you feel inclined to write more again.
I strongly agree with what you say here. Although I've never directly encountered that attitude to submissives within BDSM (just as I've never received a "kneel bitch" memo), I hear the reverberations of it.
Althoug I'd love to think of myself as free-sprited and independent, I have discovered in the past that my new interests are often part of a general flow towards certain areas. If so, then my discovery of BDSM might coincide with a wider growth of interest and awareness. I think this can only be good, even if it does make me feel like a straw in the wind.


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