I feel so helpless

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Posted by kkeke1 on Fri 15 Feb 08, 5:27 PM

It only seems like yesterday that my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia but I suppose that in reality it's six months or so. In that time she has rapidly got worse to the extent that she hardly does anything now and has dailt halucinations (a normal symptom).

My father is looking after her but he now has to do all the cooking etc - she can't even make a cup of tea properly now as she doesn't remember how to. Daddy has never been the most patient of people and it amazes me how good he is being with her. However I know that it is reaslly getting to him as he has no respite from being with her and she is no real company nowadays.

We live over 4 hours away from them and working all week and some weekends it's difficult for us to get over to them- but I do phone at least once a week. These last couple of weeks daddy has been getting so obviously depressed with the situation and I really don't know what to do to help him. it hasn't helped that neither of my sisters have been in touch since new years day so I am getting caught up in the middle of that. Of course big sister has now spoken to them and they have phoned daddy this week but how long will it be till they phone him again or I have to prompt them I don'y know.

I just feel so helpless and, although we're going over there next weekend to give daddy some time off, I just wish I could do more. Selfishly I don't don't know how much longer I will have a mother who knows who I am and I can't bear the thought of that.

I've never posted a blog before but somehow writing this down has helped a little even though my eyes are streaming,


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