Do_me sub? (3)

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shel_shock
Posted by shel_shock on Thu 7 Feb 08, 6:16 PM

sorry if this turns out long winded or doesn't make sense.

I meet with a Dom the other day for lunch, sat chatting and eating as you do, and we where talking about things we would like or expect out of a relationship. He has a liking for rituals and protocols and wants to, not sure how to word this but create the sub he desires, but not want to lose the person she already was, and i am sitting nodding my head listening to his words, and have that feeling in my belly, the one that goes mmm yeah.

anyway we sit and chat and eat lunch, then go for a walk around the park and the chat turns to play and stuff we like and limits and stuff.

And he has never done breath play or edge play, and he only believes in giving pain for punishment. So i think how do i say i love pain and see it as pleasure not punishment unless given that way, and i love breath play and sick and twisted stuff. without sounding like a pushy do me sort of sub. and i wonder if there are Doms out there that do both, wanting the D/s dynamic and the sick and twisted nasty stuff. and not just for one of play.

So i take a deep breath and explain. and he smiles and says well i could learn or try for you.

total confused as always i say bye at the end of the meet and go home and mull it all over, maybe i am to choosy maybe i want to much. maybe i should learn it not all about me and my wants. but it has to be to some degree cos i want to submit and not be unhappy about it.

so really just wondering does wanting certain things and being choosy make me a do_me sub or unsubmissive

shel

Edited Thu 7 Feb 08, 6:46 PM by shel_shock

Replies

7 Feb 08, 6:24 PM
WhiteKnight1369
UK, 5 yrs
Then there are those of us who want it as a major part of life and certainly of sexual relationship Think I have forgotten how to have plain old fashioned sex. Am tempted to find a "vanilla" partner but do wonder how it will go when in the throes of fucking my hand clamps over her mouth or I slap her cheek whilst calling her humiliating names.
Good luck with your search, compatibility is important in all areas.
Some Men know that a light touch of the tongue, running from a woman's toes to her ears, lingering in the softest way possible in various places in between, given often enough and sincerely enough, would add immeasurably to world peace. Marianne Williamson

7 Feb 08, 6:33 PM
shel_shock
UK(MK), 15 mths
thanks for wishing me good luck.
and can i read the blog the next day if you are not in cells, if you go for that vanilla date

7 Feb 08, 9:02 PM
shel_shock
UK(MK), 15 mths
cheers tope x


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