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Are Male Subs The Weaker Sex? (78)

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Not me

although many Dommes seem to see that as a bad thing.

joanie wrote:
Are Male Subs The Weaker Sex?

Prove me wrong... But I find that female submissives are the more fiesty of the two. Men give their devotion too quickly and freely. And are not much of a challenge.

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12 Feb 08, 10:00 PM
MadamRattan
UK(NE), 6 yrs
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SinPar wrote:

joanie wrote:
Prove me wrong... But I find that female submissives are the more fiesty of the two. Men give their devotion too quickly and freely. And are not much of a challenge.

You must hang out around different submissive men than I do. They're picky about who they'd serve........ Their dominants are proud to be served by them.... If you want a quality submissive around these parts you need to work at being someone they'd feel inclined/inspired to serve.

As to feisty.. It's cute in moderation when both parties agree. I wouldn't want a fight on my hands every time I asked for a glass of water. Feisty and bratty look an awful lot alike to me for the most part.

SinPar

I could'nt agree more with this.

I can be difficult, demanding, awkward, stubborn, changeable, cruel, harsh, unreasonable, plus a whole lot more, any sub that can cope with that (and they do) is no way weak!

I have never met a sub whose true devotion comes quickly or freely, it takes time and trust, if its given freely and quickly it can easily be taken away just like that.

12 Feb 08, 10:08 PM
HobGothlin
5 yrs

Ereskigal wrote:

and the correct spelling is 'relied'

Why thankee

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13 Feb 08, 7:55 PM
hagans_run
UK, 4 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:
I was trying to think about a few things that submissive males I have known had in common. I wondered even looking at it this way if I wasn't been fundamentally prejudiced because change the words 'male sub' for 'women' or 'gay' and there would be an outcry. Obviously they are not a homogenous bunch. However, slightly tongue in cheek I have come up with this, do others see a validity?

1. Enjoys giving and is good at oral sex.

2. Does not enjoy receiving oral sex.

3. Could take or leave sexual intercourse.

4. Is wary of Dom men.

5. Belives a little too readily in the image a women puts across who is claiming to be Dom.

6. Projects onto Dominant women their own fantasies and likes to believe she has the same ones.

7. Suffers from indecision.

8. Finds it hard once they do find a dom not to look over that doms shoulder for other doms. Can get easily bored and so compares with other doms to see if there is a better one out there.

9. Honesty not their strongest suit.

10. Likes cats.

11. Will say its not the clothes that make the dom but are unlikely to act anything but favourably to a women in thigh boots.

I have to answer this tongue in cheek categorisation! 1 - absolutly true 2 - I Ccan suffer it if required 3 - Will definatly perform on command 4 - Very true 5 - Been mislead too many times to still be true 6 - Not true for me, dominance in itself is what I seek 7 - Hmm not sure about this one 8 - Nope very loyal (not enough dommes around maybe the cause

) 9 - Only dishonest to provoke reprimand 10 - Likes dogs 11- Thigh high black leather boots do it every time

13 Feb 08, 8:24 PM
SemiTrainedApe
UK, 4 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:

1. Enjoys giving ... oral sex.

Well, I've done it once.

But I didn't inhale.

18 Feb 08, 12:57 PM
subrugbylad
UK(M), 6 yrs

i wouldnt say they were the weaker sex BUT i do agree that sub men do tend to give their submission more freely AND once given they are usually much better behaved. i think there is a cuteness about a femsub being "bratty" or "cheeky" where there doesnt seem to be that same cuteness within the Femdom arena. i dont know why that is because i cant help being cheeky sometimes and like my submission to be taken over me giving over completely!!

i know what the original poster was going on about but maybe the words "weaker" is not the right word.

"insert witty comment here, i cant think of one"

18 Feb 08, 2:09 PM
lick2spank
UK(RG), 5 yrs

So basically you're asking if males are the weaker sex. I think you've already made your decision, and that you are wrong.

Bratting != strength.

18 Feb 08, 2:39 PM
rose_in_chains
UK(W), 4 yrs

Forgive me if this has been said already earlier on the thread, i haven't read it all. i disagree totally with the whole question 'are submissive males the weaker sex?' on so many levels.

First of all there seems to be an inherent assumption that submission is weak. i think you have to be a very strong person to submit, totally and wholly. By doing so, you are letting go of all control, all being, and that takes strength. My submission is something i am proud of and i think it makes me stronger.

Secondly, i think that a male sub must be even stronger and more sure of himself as a person as submission is not a traditional male-oriented leaning - the alpha male hunts and gathers. Therefore a male sub is acting against societal norms but being comfortable with that gives him an added strength that others don't have.

Finally, i have been lucky enough to recently meet a male sub who is in my mind a very strong man; he knows his mind, he's successful in the real world and goes after what he wants with a commitment and a passion and doesn't stand for any nonsense. i see nothing of weakness in him, and the fact that he is also a sub makes him that much more attractive to me.

Mostly though i go back to my first point, i resent the implication that submission is weak.

(i am sure many of you will disagree with me; that is your right of course)

rose