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Nice guys finish last! (85)

This post is on the Other BDSM web board.

IndelibleMarker wrote:
I think, and certainly hope, that It's entirely possible to be both a good, strong, confident and strict Dom while also being a caring, polite and supportive individual.

I actually bring it down to being almost as simple as being a good 'traditional' gentleman.

Ohhhh yessssssssss, that does sound seductive

Every woman adores a fascist - Sylvia Plath

24 Jan 08, 3:13 PM
DDDDom
6 yrs

Mr_SpankU wrote:

Priapuss wrote:

Emma_Dragon wrote:
- Looked for a nice Dom - Found a nice Dom - Nice Dom was everything sub wanted and more - Nice Dom fucked sub over

Question - how can anyone tell you will be a nice Dom?

Emma

Only time will tell, with plenty of conversation beforehand.

Most females dismiss you after the first introduction memo, or, they just dont bother to reply !!!.

Really - then I would suggest not introducing yourself to 'most' females - sorry couldn't resist that one.

It cuts both ways - I find if you write a good profile people (not just women) will elect to get into contact with you out of curiosity. Or if you discover kindred elements in someone else's profile and write a bit around your affinities with that in respect of those - i.e. give some focus to the person, you are writing to make them feel like a person not just another hit.

Sorry but it is easy to be blanketly dismissive of women whereas the realities and the perceptions may be entirely different..People like to feel engaged with so to get back to the OP - nice guys usually finish first because "nice" is not merely how you present - it's really all about "self esteem" and ultimately, the fact that they like women.

All other pervery and sadistic delight follows on from that in my book and really has nothing to do with how people "present" but what they "are" - the two are very different and become obvious over time. Maybe that's what LMS was getting at as well.

Sorry to witter on and no sleight intended..

Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. Simone de Beauvoir

Edited 24 Jan 08, 3:19 PM by DDDDom

24 Jan 08, 3:18 PM
Masters_Delight
UK(WD), 5 yrs

Mr_SpankU wrote:

,- if they realy are females !!!.

That one is always trotted out by rejected guys. Either that or the 'you must be a lesbo then.'

Submission isnt a gift. Its like respect...
..You have to earn it.

24 Jan 08, 3:21 PM
StrangeAngle
UK(E), 4 yrs

One could equally say is anyone nice.

Nice, to me, equates to decent. Decent is considering others as one would wish to be considered in return.

topscore wrote:
Is there really such a thing as a nice guy?

Have my doubts.

24 Jan 08, 3:24 PM
Mistress_Avralivia
UK(RG), 4 yrs
£

The nicest man I know is someone I know rather well, he's my best friend, he chanced across me one bored night in a chatroom i used to leave open and *hope* someone would say something interesting (its gone downhill lol) and he appeared, he spoke to me, and sounded interesting, we chatted for a long time, and I gave him my msn the rest is history, better than a realtionship, I found the friend of my dreams, honest kind compassionate, sexy, funny, charming, just amazing, he keeps me positive when all is falling apart around me he really is an absolute gem of a man, and if it wasnt for him id not believe men like him exist *smiles* and iv'e managed to keep my faith in humanity largely due to him, especially since my long term partner cheated on me and I made him leave last weekend.

Blimey this has ended up like a bigging up session lol!!!!!!

But yes he is nice, really nice, but not wet or uninteresting, nice in the best way!

oh and he says the same about me.... and means it :D

"Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth."

24 Jan 08, 3:25 PM
DDDDom
6 yrs

Masters_Delight wrote:

Mr_SpankU wrote:

,- if they realy are females !!!.

That one is always trotted out by rejected guys. Either that or the 'you must be a lesbo then.'

I think you may have it in one there MD

Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. Simone de Beauvoir

Edited 24 Jan 08, 3:27 PM by DDDDom

24 Jan 08, 3:31 PM
Masters_Delight
UK(WD), 5 yrs

DDDDom wrote:

Masters_Delight wrote:

Mr_SpankU wrote:

,- if they realy are females !!!.

That one is always trotted out by rejected guys. Either that or the 'you must be a lesbo then.'

I think you may have it one there MD

So, all the good guys are 'nice' and all the females that like non 'nice' guys are either men or lesbians. Glad thats sorted then. LOL.x

Submission isnt a gift. Its like respect...
..You have to earn it.

24 Jan 08, 3:33 PM
DDDDom
6 yrs

Medici wrote:
I don't know how any young woman of 20 has learnt to want some fairly extreme practices.

Well they do it seems!!!

Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. Simone de Beauvoir

24 Jan 08, 3:36 PM
DDDDom
6 yrs

Masters_Delight wrote:

DDDDom wrote:

Masters_Delight wrote:

Mr_SpankU wrote:

,- if they realy are females !!!.

That one is always trotted out by rejected guys. Either that or the 'you must be a lesbo then.'

I think you may have it one there MD

So, all the good guys are 'nice' and all the females that like non 'nice' guys are either men or lesbians. Glad thats sorted then. LOL.x

Or slags, as opposed to sluts or bitches, don't forget that ...

Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. Simone de Beauvoir

24 Jan 08, 3:38 PM
lick2spank
UK(RG), 5 yrs

I agree with quite a bit of what you are saying and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

My biggest problem with BDSM in general is the huge number of time wasters. It just pisses me off.

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