Posted by annieanne on Wed 9 Jan 08, 12:52 PM to annieanne's blog.
Is it common to be in a loveless master-sub relationship? And for one person to be ok about it and the other not, who sees no reason for it to not continue. Am I wanting too much?
| 9 Jan 08, 12:56 PM Temuchin UK(M), 11 yrs   |
Have no idea if its common or not - wouldnt work for me - but for others? But if one part of the relationship isnt happy with it, then is does sound like its in trouble..... Why do we value our own thoughts as "My Two Penny's Worth" but other peoples as "Penny for your thoughts"...... must be a moral in the somewhere.... | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 12:57 PM goodghirl UK, 8 yrs |
do you mean you love him ~ but he doesn't love you and you want him to love you ? Grizwald O'Connor The 93rd rocks my world | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 12:59 PM Qwoin  UK(S), 10 yrs |
A relationship is all about what 2 people want and no one can make another want the same, you either do love or you dont. Hence if one person doesnt love the other has to decide either to stay and accept things as they are or move on. It may seem hard but it is as simple as that. There will never be mutual love unless both of you feel it. Don't be afraid of dying, be afraid of not living. | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:00 PM djin_bleu UK(NW), 5 yrs  |
I think it is common, also female subs do tend to get emotionally attached alot more than males ar allowed to, not to say us male subs don't get attached but i think it's easier to keep a male at arms length. What you have to realise is if you truly get what you want, you won't want it anymore. Surely you are in a D/s relationship strictly for D/s? If you wanted love why would you seek a Master? **She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount** | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:11 PM suzee 9 yrs |
Interesting question. Are you implying that a woman could not be both loved and controlled? In the same way are you implying a woman cannot both submit and love? If you know it in your heart, and feel it in your soul, then it is but a matter of time before you live it .......... | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:19 PM djin_bleu UK(NW), 5 yrs |
Yes and no, i think if a person is using the guise of Domination for an ulterior motive i.e. love then this will usually lead to heartache. Ofcourse we all get attached in some way or another but it is true some of us are using BDSM as a way to find vanilla Love. **She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount** | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:20 PM annieanne 5 yrs |
Neither. He said it is not about love and thinks I am being naive Edited to add yes I did Edited 9 Jan 08, 1:21 PM by annieanne | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:29 PM Marmite UK(CB), 5 yrs |
I have been in a lot of relationships both in and off the scene.. mostly they have fallen in love with me. And that is hard for them that i've not been telling them that I love them back. I can be very cold where emotions are concerned. Lots in life has hardened me towards this stuff. But then if you're happy, whats love got to do with it? A rose by any other name has thorns that will still make you bleed. | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:33 PM Temuchin UK(M), 11 yrs |
And why cant I love the woman I dominate? - Love takes many many forms my friend, but we only have one word for love - as the book said "a different kind of loving" Why do we value our own thoughts as "My Two Penny's Worth" but other peoples as "Penny for your thoughts"...... must be a moral in the somewhere.... | |||
| 9 Jan 08, 1:37 PM annieanne 5 yrs |
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