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| 7 Jan 08, 11:18 AM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs    |
Then don't do it! ~ = ~ = ~ = * c * = ~ = ~ = ~ | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 11:18 AM queen_dom UK, 5 yrs |
Good idea.
With regards to parents, they've tried hard but gave up ages ago and I've always loved sex/fetish play with strangers. LOL
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| 7 Jan 08, 11:30 AM Thoughtleader UK(NW), 7 yrs  |
I agree with Jezebel and Beezlebunny: I can't understand why he thinks he can "order" this experience! Or why he's so mad keen on jumping straight into it. It sounds a bit funny to me, and I reckon you should avoid it. It seems to me trust has to be earned on both sides, and that he should find himself a Domme girlfriend and work up to this sort of thing. I reckon kinky fulfilment for him is more likely to start with a drink and a pizza than like this. | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 11:41 AM queen_dom UK, 5 yrs |
People do order stuff to professional, and make special requests to me and other Dommes/Dom on this site I bet. I couldn't understand either, I asked and he said he's always dreamt of it. It makes sense 'cos I have the same dream. What sounds funny is asking it happens on the first date. I don't know him but he says he's a newbie and he's just interested in CP.
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| 7 Jan 08, 11:52 AM Beau_Tox UK(CB), 7 yrs  |
Given what you describe, I would take him back, then rough him up some - but not *too* far. Then he'll have a taste, you'll have a better idea about him, he'll be wanting more next time, you'll be more comfortable to go further. Make him beg you to go further next time and if you're happy to, take him closer to tears the next time. And I'd make sure you have a safe-call, just in case he turns on you afterwards. After all, you don't know him at all. Prof Tim
There are two distinct people who inhabit this body. I am my own evil twin . . . | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 11:57 AM Marmite UK(CB), 5 yrs |
You've called him your 'boyfriend'? Perhaps you should cancel this 'meeting' tnoight and let the guy have a wank over the thoughts instead. ANd then perhaps you should experience life a little more? Even the people who have been around for 15-20 years still say they like to get to know someone first.. Please take your safety into account. A rose by any other name has thorns that will still make you bleed. | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 12:04 PM newexperiences UK, 5 yrs |
queen_dom,YOU are the Dominant in the relationship,it does not bode well if the sub is so demanding already,why not consider telling him YOU are the one in charge and will proceed at YOUR own pace if you BOTH agree to play?
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| 7 Jan 08, 12:20 PM SoulPossession UK(PO), 6 yrs |
Sounds like the thrill of stranger danger to me. He probably loves the idea of it, but will hate it when it's happening and then will have to figure it out after. I guess the question for you is will you get what you want out of it? G. | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 12:28 PM emark UK, 9 yrs |
If he doesn't want safewords, then he is basically asking you to assault him if he withdraws consent.
http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/extreme-images/ Edited 7 Jan 08, 12:30 PM by emark | ||
| 7 Jan 08, 12:30 PM queen_dom UK, 5 yrs |
I haven't called him my boyfriend. Throughout this post I clearly say I don't like the fact I don't know him enough to push the session so far. Ideally I'd rather know a person before playing, in practice this means an hour chat down the pub prior to session on an average case. Pros do that all the time, of course taking due precautions. Is "And then perhaps you should experience life a little more?" a death threat? I'm an adult and take my own risks and this is the last but not definitely the first. Of course I care for my safety, but I care more for my legal position.
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