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| Thu 20 Dec 07, 11:15 PM Katalena UK(GL), 5 yrs   |
I had quite an interesting conversation at work today with a colleague. The short version is: She said she had a quandry then went into a story about how her son has a new girlfriend who likes to be strangled during sex. Apparently the more and more they do it the more and more she wants, likes and wants it harder. He has spoken to his Mum about it due to his concerns of hurting her. We had a discussion about the safety aspects so I am not looking for a "do be careful" response. I am curious to know if there are any topic specific websites that you know of that I can pass onto her. Thanks in advance Kat "Your ego is writing cheques, your body can't cash" | |
| 20 Dec 07, 11:40 PM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs |
DO BE CAREFUL ... Sorry ...  No websites, I'm afraid, but a thought that might be helpful. Sexual asphyxiation play by means of STRANGULATION has particular dangers in that the neck can suffer on-going damage that lasts after the pressure to it has ceased. Similar asphyxiation sensations can be induced in safer ways by covering the mouth and (gently) pinching the nose without so much risk of lasting or serious harm. Perhaps there are other ways this young lady can get her pleasures? Toak To predict the behaviour of ordinary people in advance, you only have to assume that they will always try to escape a disagreeable situation with the smallest possible expenditure of intelligence - Friedrich Nietzsche | |
| 21 Dec 07, 12:43 AM EricStanton UK(BD), 11 yrs |
Have a look at BDSM Body ... Breathplay for some sound information. At the bottom of the page are some links to further information. "Insanity is a gradual process - don't rush it" ........Ford Prefect Edited 21 Dec 07, 1:04 AM by EricStanton | |
| 21 Dec 07, 1:59 AM FetishJess UK(BN), 5 yrs |
It's something I can enjoy sometimes too. I will only let someone do it with their hands, either round my throat or over my mouth, and never with something else. I guess that's my piece of advice. www.brightonfab.com www.fetiqueuk.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhKU-tmSQR8 | |
| 21 Dec 07, 2:21 AM Doghouse_Reilly UK(MK), 6 yrs |
Get a really good lawyer. Just in case. Hell hath no fury like the vast robot armies of a woman scorned. | |
| 21 Dec 07, 3:51 AM Malbon UK(LS), 8 yrs |
Some useful info here 'The world can, once we have programmed ourselves with a language, cause us to hold beliefs. But it cannot propose a language for us to speak. Only other human beings can do that.' Edited 21 Dec 07, 3:54 AM by Malbon | |
| 28 Dec 07, 6:17 AM Dana_Phais UK, 6 yrs |
Here is what Jay Wiseman says on the subject: http://www.geocities.com/bdsm_virtual_guide/Brea... Feel free to join our CBT & BB Forum: | |
| 28 Dec 07, 8:00 AM newexperiences UK, 5 yrs |
Thanks for that Dana_Phais,i had it done to me once with no side effects but don't think i will allow it again
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| 28 Dec 07, 9:36 AM Typhoon2 UK(HG), 7 yrs |
And here's one of the counters to Wiseman's comments... http://necrobabes.org/gaspers/library/BCEP.txt Anyone engaging in breathplay - as I often have - should be sure to read as widely as possible. Retrotek's House of Gaspers, while tending towards the fantasist end of the spectrum these days, has a collection of useful links (including Wiseman's essay) at http://necrobabes.org/gaspers/library | |
| 28 Dec 07, 9:37 AM Supernanny 6 yrs |
This was discussed recently, have a read of this: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/boards/uksmbf/1... For some good info: http://www.leatherfamily.co.uk/ | |
| 28 Dec 07, 10:27 AM MsDarklove_Hurts UK(WF), 7 yrs £ |
I know you specify that you only want tips and not warnings, so am assuming that you have read up on all the dangers of axphiation/strangulation. However, you don't say how old this boy is? I gather that he's old enough to be adept and fully clued in about this form of extreme play and accept that there is a remote possibility of something going wrong (eg her having a stroke or heart attack as well as the trauma to the neck mentioned in an earlier blog) and that he may at some point not be able to resusitate her? Is he aware that the law doesnt give a hoot if both parties agreed to do it, or even if she was the sole instigator and will place the whole blame on him? Possibility of heart attack/and /or stroke is a medical fact even if only employing a hand over the mouth method, much less actually compressing the windpipe (read up on it) albeit a slim one in most cases. I myself love breath play by the method of nipping the nose and covering the mouth with a hand and I am not advocating a hypocrytical, 'My way is safe and yours isnt' stance. I do question though, if strangulation (one assumes to the point of passing out, or at least dizzyness) is a sensible way of achieving the desired effect, the same way that I would question the wisdom on putting a plastic bag over someones head until they pass out. I have seen this done several times and each time it took longer to resusitate the receiver. Oh! ..of course one assumes that he knows exactly how to resusitate someone who's stopped or is having trouble breathing? I do realise that a LOT of sado/mascho play is highly risky and would again like to stress that I have no problems at all with breath witholdance and other forms of extreme play, so long as both parties have made a point of clueing up on the dangers and possibilities of things going tragically wrong. If your friend's son doesn't fall into this catagory, or is still very young, do advise her to ask him if he really wants to indulge this girl?
DarkLoveHurts Edited 28 Dec 07, 10:40 AM by MsDarklove_Hurts |
