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| 1 Jan 09, 10:18 AM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs  |
I tend to agree with Mike. In my house, it is understood that we do not argue. If we have any kind of conflict then we try to be calm and talk about the issue. Paul, my sub works hard to align himself to my preferred ways of doing things and this means we are at least on the right track and know what the shared goal is. My sub knows he must not talk back, be rude, pick fights or be snide and so generally we are niggle-free.
Sometimes, I can be snappy but if I behave inappropriately I apologise as it is unhelpful for me to lose my composure.I do not see it as un-dommely to apologise to my sub. It makes him aware I respect him and our relationship.I try my hardest but I am not perfect... just a Domme Paul does have to bite his tongue sometimes and moderate how he speaks if he is a bit aggravated. This is because he knows what his role is and his duties to me are. He also knows that unlike with me, an apology will not be the end of the matter if he loses his temper. He is also likely to be punished. That fact reveals the difference in our roles and and exemplifies the power imbalance. Controversial views of Ms_Valentine. No 1. Slaves submit no more deeply than subs can do. No 2. Terms such as a 'sub' or a 'slave' describe a state of being, not a level of submission, importance or place in a hierarchy. 3. Submission?.. no limits necessary. | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 2:28 PM simjo_29 3 yrs |
I will happily express my views on any subject. But when it's required in a confrontational situation like an argument, I often find myself backing down in order to keep the peace. However there are a few certain topics that I will always stand up and be counted for regardless of the circumstances.
Although I imagine that it can be difficult in a 24/7 relationship. I enjoyed reading about the link between D/s and politics. It strikes me as being very easy to keep politics out of the bedroom, but very difficult to keep it out of many other aspects of the relationship. | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 3:09 PM MMs_lavenderblossom 8 yrs  |
I wouldn't say we really "argue" as such, though we do have disagreements which is pretty much human nature.
If a submissive never offered a point of view or stood up for things that are important to them then the communication side of the relationship is failing. If there are niggles they need to be talked about and straightened out in my opinion. I do have a different attitude with Him than other people or past partners and I think the main reason for that is that I respect him more. I will put my point across which is sometimes hard because any kind of disagreeemnt upsets me really badly and I hate it. One of the first things we discussed when we got together was that I hated arguments and did not want a relationship like that again. He knows he can stop me easily in my tracks with a firm word but that really only happens if I am spiralling out of control and getting nowhere. Often if I am just feeling hormonal or cross a strong hug can calm me instantly. In short, I think it is less about having the disagreement but more about how you put it across and deal with it that matters.
Vanilla sex is like a 99 ice cream - without the flake (me) | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 3:36 PM BadWulf UK(TA), 6 yrs |
Since historically I have conditioned mine to orgasm on command, a click of the fingers usually works wonders if they are getting stroppy!
They find it Hard to maintain huff, whilst becoming a mewling puddle on the floor I have found - John My, what sharp teeth I have. Edited 1 Jan 09, 5:16 PM by BadWulf | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 3:53 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
You're going to need a sick bucket, but we don't argue. Let our love be a flame, not an ember, | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 4:38 PM Diablos_patience UK, 6 yrs |
Funny that as i would say that trusting a Dom with my body would be much more of a true testiment of how deep my submission was. I personally i wouldnt enter into a relationship with a dominant that i would want to "argue" with. To me that would defeat the whole purpose of embarking on a D/s relationship. Im submissive, i should be mindful of my position in regards to him always....
~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~ | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 4:56 PM Switch_Angel 4 yrs |
If were having an argument then I never back down!
But I dont always Win 
Anna x x x memories will always be strong | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 5:43 PM kinkyclover UK(NG), 4 yrs |
Very much agreed. If I know I am right or believe in something worth fighting for I can be very stubborn. clover Its not begging....Its saying please very politely | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 6:32 PM Scorchio 7 yrs |
It makes no difference whatsoever that I'm her sub! If we're having an argument then I'll say exactly what I think and to hell with the consequences.
As far as I'm concerned I'm still entitled to my opinions on 'nilla matters, sub or not. We have had and will continue to have many a heated argument and to be frank I could never be any different. I'm opinionated and can't keep my mouth shut when I've a bee in my bonnet | ||
| 1 Jan 09, 7:00 PM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
That's a great idea, but didnt it cause them to start arguments for absolutely no reason?
life is like a box of chocolates ........ too many coffee creams ! |
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