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Subs - Does being a sub change how you argue with your dom? (87)

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31 Dec 08, 3:50 PM
lima_pink_tigress
3 yrs
I'd only ever back down form an 'debate' or discussion if I wasn't 99.9% sure I'm right. If I'm not sure I'm right I won't argue at all. But if I 'know' I'm right, I'll argue that to the death, in any situation.

life is like a box of chocolates ........ too many coffee creams !

31 Dec 08, 4:08 PM
lis0rp
UK(YO), 3 yrs
I will vehemently argue my point, almost to the point of absurdity, so convinced am I of my rightness (the joys of being a bit of an acid casualty). Arguments with Mistress tend to dissolve quickly into ridiculous banter, though, followed by me doing what she says. OTOH, we're so alike in many ways that I'd do it of my own volition anyway.
31 Dec 08, 4:22 PM
Storyteller
UK, 3 yrs
saranora wrote:
Well surely the fun in being a bit feisty as a sub is the punishment that follows... ;)

'Feistiness' in a sub is surely an asset too far, no?

Maybe my understanding of the term is off, but I can think of plenty of situations short of a display of 'feistiness' which might call for punishment.

The mere idea of a feisty sub, for me, torpedoes the image I have of the scenario. I'd be interested to know the views of others.

Edited 31 Dec 08, 4:23 PM by Storyteller

31 Dec 08, 4:23 PM
Sluttish
UK(E), 6 yrs
The day I don't argue my point, is the day I have found my true Dom.

Either that, or my vocal cords have been cut.

Slutty slut from slutland.

Edited 1 Jan 09, 12:12 PM by Sluttish

31 Dec 08, 4:25 PM
kaison
UK(HA), 3 yrs
I have italian/irish blood I'll fight to the death if it's something I'm passionate about.

31 Dec 08, 4:43 PM
perseus3000
UK(CH), 3 yrs

I tell her she's a bitch. I suffer so sweetly for that ;)

above all else compassion

31 Dec 08, 6:11 PM
myface_yourseat
UK(WF), 11 yrs

Masters_Delight wrote:
Subs - Does being a sub change how you argue with your dom?

What i mean is, when your with your Dom/me and your having an argument do you back down because your the sub or do you argue your point? I dont mean argue in a D/s sense, i mean an everyday niggle /argument that is nothing to do with the D/s dynamic. Does the fact that your a sub deter you from arguing?

Edited to add the word dynamic and change the title coz the first one didnt put across what i meant properly.x

Simply do not argue. Instead respectfully ask permission to express my comment and, if permission is granted, offer my views politely and with respect. However, if my owner demands my silence then i would shut up immediately.

31 Dec 08, 10:26 PM
George_Michael
5 yrs
Relationships are as unique as people. I would always have to give my opinion but the D/s dynamic would mean I would give more thought to opening my mouth..

Whatever you do, don't press the red button...

31 Dec 08, 10:31 PM
totallycoverme
UK(M), 4 yrs
i prefer to negotiate than argue although i would love to find a Dom who i trusted enough to give the last word and final say to...that would be true testament to how much i trusted someone and how deep my submission was
1 Jan 09, 12:39 AM
fen_fatale
UK(CB), 7 yrs
Depends on the Dom, if i fully respect them, then i will start to debate it, but if i am not getting anywhere then i quickly back down. If i know a Dom is wrong, then i guess i view it that i am going to humiliate him if i set out to prove this, and that wouldn't be right. So if he doesn't want to hear it on a first debate, then i just drop it. I think its the same with most people though.. if they are closed minded there is no point in discussing something or trying to show them right and wrong.

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