Subs - Does being a sub change how you argue with your dom? (93)

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28 Dec 07, 12:40 AM
DDDDom
UK(N), 4 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:

DDDDom wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:

wonderer wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:
Of course, like me your Mistress might be of a socialist persuasion herself.

Perhaps for another thread, but I'm interested whether there's a perceived conflict between being a socialist and being a Domme. Certain sorts of Domming seem to be more patronising and superior than one would imagine in democratic socialism. Perhaps consensuality is the key.

Consenuality is the key and the issue will be explored further when I do my talk for the Anarchist Forum next year.

Could we have a reminder link please?
Sure, http://www.eventsandissues.bravehost.com/LAF.html

Thank you - it is now in my diary.
Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. Simone de Beauvoir

28 Dec 07, 12:40 AM
TheMarquise
UK, 4 yrs

nothing1 wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:

nothing1 wrote:
I do find it a difficult thing to manage. As a sub in day-to-day issues i would ask for a little 'time out' to put my point.
On bigger issues it is worse for me because i am an out and out socialist and will stand my corner against anyone in everyday life. Whilst with a Domme (particularly One with conservative views) this becomes difficult. i have been out with One (in a vanilla setting) where She made me agree with everything She said in public (knowing how this made me feel inside).
Of course having a Labour government that aren't really Labour makes it all the more confusing.
Of course, like me your Mistress might be of a socialist persuasion herself.

Interesting that You say this Marquise. i feel my psyque and my bdsm/sexuality are a complete contradiction of each other.
Hence, although Your 'socialist persuasion' would attract me very much on one level, it would not on the other. Forgive me for saying so, but You have a 'Lady of The manor' Look about You, which would quite easily bring me to my knees. Once there i would happily shine away at Your boots, but at that moment the thought of You sharing my left-wing views would be unwelcome.
i guess for me, in one aspect of life i seek the company of big hearted people, yet on the other a cold heart is key.

Well then don't think about it while you are down there, you should be concentrating on shining my boots so I can view my reflection in them, not contemplating my political persuasion!

28 Dec 07, 12:42 AM
TheMarquise
UK, 4 yrs

DDDDom wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:

DDDDom wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:

wonderer wrote:

TheMarquise wrote:
Of course, like me your Mistress might be of a socialist persuasion herself.

Perhaps for another thread, but I'm interested whether there's a perceived conflict between being a socialist and being a Domme. Certain sorts of Domming seem to be more patronising and superior than one would imagine in democratic socialism. Perhaps consensuality is the key.

Consenuality is the key and the issue will be explored further when I do my talk for the Anarchist Forum next year.

Could we have a reminder link please?
Sure, http://www.eventsandissues.bravehost.com/LAF.html

Thank you - it is now in my diary.
It is pitched at a basic level assuming the audience not to be bdsm practioners, although some might be or would like to be. If you would find it interesting you would be most welcome to attend. However, it may not be illuminating to a fellow Icer.

28 Dec 07, 12:54 AM
nothing1
UK, 2 yrs (The Marquise said) Well then don't think about it while you are down there, you should be concentrating on shining my boots so I can view my reflection in them, not contemplating my political persuasion!
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Dare i say it, Your reflection would be well worth the effort of the shine.

28 Dec 07, 8:12 AM
Gate_Keeper
UK(B), 3 yrs

GateKeepers_property wrote:
we are usually right,

*coughs*
yeah right........ only cause I let you... now get some housework done the pair of you.....

~~~The way to love anything is to realise that it might be lost~~~
Edited 28 Dec 07, 8:17 AM by Gate_Keeper

31 Dec 08, 3:43 PM
saranora
UK(GU), 19 mths
Well surely the fun in being a bit feisty as a sub is the punishment that follows...

31 Dec 08, 3:50 PM
lima_pink_tigress
UK(G), 16 mths

I'd only ever back down form an 'debate' or discussion if I wasn't 99.9% sure I'm right. If I'm not sure I'm right I won't argue at all. But if I 'know' I'm right, I'll argue that to the death, in any situation.
life is like a box of chocolates ........ too many coffee creams !

31 Dec 08, 4:08 PM
lis0rp
UK(YO), 17 mths
I will vehemently argue my point, almost to the point of absurdity, so convinced am I of my rightness (the joys of being a bit of an acid casualty). Arguments with Mistress tend to dissolve quickly into ridiculous banter, though, followed by me doing what she says. OTOH, we're so alike in many ways that I'd do it of my own volition anyway.

31 Dec 08, 4:22 PM
Storyteller
UK, 15 mths

saranora wrote:
Well surely the fun in being a bit feisty as a sub is the punishment that follows...
'Feistiness' in a sub is surely an asset too far, no?
Maybe my understanding of the term is off, but I can think of plenty of situations short of a display of 'feistiness' which might call for punishment.
The mere idea of a feisty sub, for me, torpedoes the image I have of the scenario. I'd be interested to know the views of others.
Edited 31 Dec 08, 4:23 PM by Storyteller

31 Dec 08, 4:23 PM
Sluttish
UK(E), 4 yrs The day I don't argue my point, is the day I have found my true Dom.
Either that, or my vocal cords have been cut.
Slutty slut from slutland.
Edited 1 Jan 09, 12:12 PM by Sluttish

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