Subs - Does being a sub change how you argue with your dom? (93)

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Thu 20 Dec 07, 6:34 PM
Masters_Delight
UK(WD), 2 yrs

What i mean is, when your with your Dom/me and your having an argument do you back down because your the sub or do you argue your point? I dont mean argue in a D/s sense, i mean an everyday niggle /argument that is nothing to do with the D/s dynamic. Does the fact that your a sub deter you from arguing?
Edited to add the word dynamic and change the title coz the first one didnt put across what i meant properly.x
Submission isnt a gift...
..Its like respect, you have to earn it.
Edited Thu 20 Dec 07, 10:18 PM by Masters_Delight

20 Dec 07, 6:38 PM
choozy
UK, 2 yrs
Y!
Hell no,
I never argue unles I'm 100% sure I'm right. But when I am, I'll fight to the death for what I beleive in.
Choozy. x
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20 Dec 07, 6:40 PM
Mistress_Hypatia
UK, 3 yrs
It doesn't seem to deter ChildeRoland. If he thinks I'm wrong he'll tell me (and, if necessary, anyone else in the vicinity) so. We don't often have actual arguments, but there are situations in which what I say goes, because I'm dominant, and others where we have to have the argument out right up until either one or the other of us has achieved victory.
And I wouldn't have it any other way.
A lady is never offensive... by accident.

20 Dec 07, 6:52 PM
Delphian
2 yrs In an everyday situation Id never back down. In non D/s its perfectly human to like a good structured argument once in a while.

Masters_Delight wrote:
I dont mean argue in a D/s sense, i mean an everyday niggle /argument that is nothing to do with D/s. Does the fact that your a sub deter you from arguing?

20 Dec 07, 6:55 PM
newexperiences
UK, 2 yrs
i don't really switch on and off so no i wouldn't push an arguement even when i know i've been right,that doesn't extend to other people though where i enjoy a heated but good tempered debate where both parties disagree and believe strongly in their point of view.........have had some interesting and enjoyable debates over a bottle of wine (or two)

20 Dec 07, 7:05 PM
hunny_Beez
5 yrs
Masters_Delight wrote:
Subs - Do you argue as subs?
What i mean is, when your with your Dom/me and your having an argument do you back down because your the sub or do you argue your point? I dont mean argue in a D/s sense, i mean an everyday niggle /argument that is nothing to do with D/s. Does the fact that your a sub deter you from arguing?
When I was first with Hive (8 years ago) I would back down all the time. It took him several years to make me not argue but discuss things.
Now I argue like a good un.
See its all his fault I am no longer the goodie sub but a stroppy switch.
hunnyB
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20 Dec 07, 7:15 PM
lil_madame
4 yrs I can be an opinionated little cowbag and want to express my point if I think I'm right
If it becomes heated and tempers are rising tho, then even if I know I'm right for the sake of not causing too much upset and contention then I would back down and just agree to keep the peace and maybe bring it up later with proof that I was right,lol!
It has to be said though, that I've learnt im often wrong, even when I'm 100 percent sure I'm right.
I think sometimes arguements arent actually anything about the topic of the arguement, its normally something else fuelling it, so it's also good to keep that in mind too.
There are two kinds of people who never amount to much: those who cannot do what they are told, and those who can do nothing else. Cyrus Curtis

20 Dec 07, 7:21 PM
ClassAct2005
UK, 5 yrs
I don't think I've ever not backed down in an argument actually with a man even my husband. Weird. I'm obviously a defective person or something.

20 Dec 07, 7:26 PM
helena_helena
UK, 4 yrs
No, I argue like a person. Funnily enough....
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20 Dec 07, 7:32 PM
twisted_kitty
UK(OX), 2 yrs

if i know i am right and they DONT have a big stick... Hell yeah i argue
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20 Dec 07, 7:39 PM
star_DT
UK, 4 yrs
I dont do the heated argument thing in any aspect of my life, but if I have a point to make, or debate, even with the Domly one, then I will have my say.
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