20 Dec 07, 6:38 PM
TheFalconer
UK(S), 6 yrs
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AesirPhoenix wrote:
TheFalconer wrote:
Don't worry that people might be turned off if they know you like to do "X" - since anyone who feels that way is not going to be a good match for you anyway.
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I like your advice, but I think there's room for compromise on the above count: There are kinks out there that aren't my thing, but I'm not adverse to them, either. If I liked someone I'd try these things to make them happy, and if it didn't make me unhappy, then it's all fine, surely?
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Absolutely. The point I was making was not to worry about people who are averse to something. Just be yourself. If you like doing strange things with Marmite, then someone who thinks that doing so is repulsive is not a good match for you - so don't be afraid to say it, because people who react badly to your Marmite perversions were never going to be a good match anyway. On the other hand, people who are interested in the Marmite thing, or are open to trying it, will probably be more interested because you've been open about it, so it's win-win. "Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." - Oscar Wilde
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20 Dec 07, 9:43 PM
who_is_the_wolf
UK(CT), 5 yrs
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Some find it easy to meet and chat and some find it hard. There is no rule to it. However, it is no different in the vanilla world.
Open your ears and your eyes look at them as you look at your self. Grow with in your self as you would hope to grow with them.
Use them as they would wish to be used & treat them as they wish to be treated.
List this is a valuable thing to do I feel, if for no other reason than it enables you to look at your self, never be afraid to change what you say, we all change and your profile must reflect that.
Regards Ice Wolf
Undescribeable wrote:
How easy/hard is it to meet someone?
Hello to everyone who has clicked on this web-board.
Basically, i am interested in how easy or how hard you find/found it to meet someone with whom you want to have a D/s relationship with.
Did/do you have a list of what it is you want? Have you found someone who matched your 'list' if you have one?
How did you meet your Dom/sub, if you indeed are in a relationship at the moment.
If you aren't in a relationship but want to be one and are trying to be, how are you going about it?
i think i'm asking for advice, really...
*shrugs shyly*
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Devour the heart before tearing at skin; this Wolf is hungry!
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20 Dec 07, 9:54 PM
Anita_Esrader
UK(BD), 7 yrs
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Undescribeable wrote:
How easy/hard is it to meet someone?
Hello to everyone who has clicked on this web-board.
Basically, i am interested in how easy or how hard you find/found it to meet someone with whom you want to have a D/s relationship with.
Did/do you have a list of what it is you want? Have you found someone who matched your 'list' if you have one?
How did you meet your Dom/sub, if you indeed are in a relationship at the moment.
If you aren't in a relationship but want to be one and are trying to be, how are you going about it?
i think i'm asking for advice, really...
*shrugs shyly*
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Took me four years, but I am different. I tried the fetish sites such as collar me and alt, but had no joy.
SO I went on the vanilla ones, with the idea that there would be kink curious people on there.
Initially I tried the pay ones, but got sick and tired of forking out on my credit card, so went on the freebies.
I got banned from a couple, but I found PlentyofFish,com to be very friendly.
An innocuous email to one girl ended up with me meeting another, and we hit it off straight away.
We got on so well that She is now moving from Folkestone to me on Saturday 22 December.
So although you have to be patient, it does pay off in the end.
Night night I am now now WELL Behaved. If you spot me being naughty, please memo/Email my new Mistress who will verify the claim then either authorise you to punish me or do it herself.
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20 Dec 07, 10:10 PM
Eternal_Patience
UK, 4 yrs
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Anita_Esrader wrote:
Undescribeable wrote:
How easy/hard is it to meet someone?
Hello to everyone who has clicked on this web-board.
Basically, i am interested in how easy or how hard you find/found it to meet someone with whom you want to have a D/s relationship with.
Did/do you have a list of what it is you want? Have you found someone who matched your 'list' if you have one?
How did you meet your Dom/sub, if you indeed are in a relationship at the moment.
If you aren't in a relationship but want to be one and are trying to be, how are you going about it?
i think i'm asking for advice, really...
*shrugs shyly*
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Took me four years, but I am different. I tried the fetish sites such as collar me and alt, but had no joy.
SO I went on the vanilla ones, with the idea that there would be kink curious people on there.
Initially I tried the pay ones, but got sick and tired of forking out on my credit card, so went on the freebies.
I got banned from a couple, but I found PlentyofFish,com to be very friendly.
An innocuous email to one girl ended up with me meeting another, and we hit it off straight away.
We got on so well that She is now moving from Folkestone to me on Saturday 22 December.
So although you have to be patient, it does pay off in the end.
Night night
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anitas other half here! it was nice to meet and move to someone i love thats why i am sitting in a cold flat waiting for anita to come get me. it does work trust me! Edited 20 Dec 07, 10:14 PM by Eternal_Patience
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20 Dec 07, 10:45 PM
mackem_git
UK(SR), 8 yrs |
I'm a little short ugly guy so it's just about impossible.
You seemt to be a tall, attractive, articulate young woman so be patient and I'm sure you'll make some connections. |
20 Dec 07, 10:47 PM
Anita_Esrader
UK(BD), 7 yrs
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mackem_git wrote:
I'm a little short ugly guy so it's just about impossible.
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SO am I
Be Patient
It DOES happen, I am evidence of that.I giot despondent and thought about giving up. But I stuck in there, and eventually hit the jackpot.. I am now now WELL Behaved. If you spot me being naughty, please memo/Email my new Mistress who will verify the claim then either authorise you to punish me or do it herself.
Edited 20 Dec 07, 10:48 PM by Anita_Esrader
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21 Dec 07, 1:44 AM
twisted_kitty
UK(OX), 4 yrs
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Its easy to meet some one ... lots of wonderful people on IC. It much harder to find the right one. I would say enjoy your self see what happens keep them at arms length till it feels safe. I am going to be taking my own advise too by the way Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile!
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21 Dec 07, 1:59 AM
Iona_O
UK, 5 yrs
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mackem_git wrote:
I'm a little short ugly guy so it's just about impossible.
You seemt to be a tall, attractive, articulate young woman so be patient and I'm sure you'll make some connections.
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I've just read your profile and it's hilarious. I loved it! If women are looking for a man with a GSOH you should have more memos than you know what to do with!  Love is... giving him the pain he wants and needs, finding new ways to stimulate his senses and hugging and kissing him afterwards then walking away hand in hand
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21 Dec 07, 6:42 AM
newexperiences
UK, 5 yrs
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LOL,i had to read it after you said that Iona_O
Iona_O wrote:
mackem_git wrote:
I'm a little short ugly guy so it's just about impossible.
You seemt to be a tall, attractive, articulate young woman so be patient and I'm sure you'll make some connections.
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I've just read your profile and it's hilarious. I loved it! If women are looking for a man with a GSOH you should have more memos than you know what to do with!
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21 Dec 07, 9:42 AM
littleonejust4you
UK, 4 yrs |
Undescribeable wrote:
How easy/hard is it to meet someone?
Hello to everyone who has clicked on this web-board.
Basically, i am interested in how easy or how hard you find/found it to meet someone with whom you want to have a D/s relationship with.
don't know if 'easy' is the word i'd use but i met someone with whom a D/s relationship is evolving within four months of joining IC. We'd spent hours chatting on the phone and would have met in person sooner had i not been working away.
Did/do you have a list of what it is you want? Have you found someone who matched your 'list' if you have one?
never had a list as such although dark hair, dark eyes and an even darker mind are always a good starting point for me an openess to exploring pervery and pushing boundaries together within a D/s dynamic is more erotic and important than just ticking off certain activities from a checklist
yes, he matched all the above and more!
How did you meet your Dom/sub, if you indeed are in a relationship at the moment
initial contact was via IC
would echo the other replies - am surprised that you haven't been inundated with memos, especially from guys interested in casual play and going to clubs.
i had plenty of fun in my early days on IC and was not actively looking for "a relationship" but wow, you never know what pleasant surprises life will bring! |
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