What makes you contact a sub? (62)

*shrug*

Thank you

naughty but nice

Oh, it's a guilty pleasure I confess, but I have a crush on The Special One. and he must be, because interestingly greying, middle aged latino men -and sporty to boot- are the opposite of what I usually fancy!

Hmmm I haven't recruited online for years because it's far more easy, reliable, pleasant and human to make friends in the community for real and meet new partners this way. (for me)

When I used to cruise on the internet, I would proactively look for someone nice. Not realy respond to a random email unless it was exceptionally interesting. this is what I wold look for when browsing profiles.. that they are a) clearly from a real person who is actually a player. b) did not have pictures of people's genitals on it. c) was reasonably located in relation to me. d) that had something of interest to actually say apart from their wank fantasies. e) obviously has some BDSM interests in common with me. f) isn't looking for sex. g) isn't deceiving another partner (of any description). h) doesn't whine about how nobody ever emails them as if dommes of the planet owe them something. i) hasn't emailed me a multiple recipient email before. j)ideally says at least one sentence on their profile which excites me about them as a person and makes me think I'd like to get to know them. k) doesn't appear to be homophobic, racist, ablist, transphobic, a bnp member, or generally attack any social group of people they don't belong to. l) doesnt say anything which makes me feel eeek-y like I want my testicles removed.. I am worthless and I want you to prove it to me... or doesn't appear to care who they belong to.. or says anything daft like I'll sell my house and move in with you.. etc blah. m) dont say anything which I might think would mean they wouldn't like a person like me.

and then I mail them

then they be able to have a decent conversation, have to continue to meet all the points above again, as well as not say 'oh wow it's so nice to talk to someone your size/shape/age cos (take your pick) all other dommes are fat/ ugly/ old/ not really women.' (fascist wanker alert). and understand that I am pansexual polyamorous genderqueer and disabled and not freak out.

don't want much eh?

basically, once I've whittled that down from the single population at any given time, it's pretty easy to take the pick of what's left cos there isn't that much - there may be loads of bottoms but in most cases we wouldn't suit each other..

De

Roses are red, bruises are blue, masochists are sweet, and I love you.

Edited 28 Nov 07, 11:28 PM by Degenerate

Roses are red, bruises are blue, masochists are sweet, and I love you.

Not sure, but yesterday I changed my profile to make it much clearer that I'm not really looking. The first line now says:

">>> Not seeking - just Wondering <<<"

This morning I find myself with another unsolicited memo from another Domme - someone I've never interacted with before. Very welcome and even more surprising.

Playing hard to get is the way ahead chaps!

Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est.

Changes add to Not Looking lol

naughty but nice

wahaha you cant share that tip!!! they'll all be at it.

Roses are red, bruises are blue, masochists are sweet, and I love you.

Its seems very random, even then you up front and honest that you dont want anything other than a hello back, sometimes you simply dont get them.