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| 26 Nov 07, 10:58 PM lacywhitepanties 4 yrs |
Do we have a choice? As a sub I would expect it from a caring Domme in time i am handing over control to her. While I would hope to avoid the other sort of Domme,as Ive heard it can be eyewatering a 12" strap on on the first date!! Edited 26 Nov 07, 11:00 PM by lacywhitepanties | |||
| 26 Nov 07, 11:38 PM SinPar US, 12 yrs  |
SinPar
-- The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern, and like vampires they suck our life's blood. (Bette Davis) | |||
| 26 Nov 07, 11:58 PM gimpneil UK(DN), 7 yrs  |
Sounds like the Domme in question is setting her Hard Limit as well. Basically by the sounds of it shes saying that in order to play you would have to be ok with strap on play. If thats an issue for you and you dont want to force the issue just move on or express you opinion, after all this could all be a show put on by the Domme or she wants to lead you towards exploring the option. Personally I'd love to give strap-on play a try but if any of my hard limits were challanged in such a way I wouldnt expect to stay with that person long.
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| 27 Nov 07, 1:04 AM darkdollie UK(FY), 7 yrs £ |
yes i think subs should.....umm ok i actually just mean me! *grins* To the OP, you can't really generalise. Some Dommes will expect, some won't. perspectives change when your on your knees ~ Killing Miranda | |||
| 27 Nov 07, 7:36 PM andchafri UK(ME), 5 yrs |
Andy | |||
| 27 Nov 07, 8:45 PM bigjohnuk2 UK(WS), 7 yrs |
Very well put Ms Hot Lips My lady Domme has made it clear that she enjoys and expects to give me a good pounding with her strapon and I am very happy for her to use me for her complete pleasure. Her only concern is that she does think she needs a much bigger strapon for her maximum pleasure John W | |||
| 29 Nov 07, 6:26 PM FluffyHotWaterBottle UK(WC), 4 yrs |
I'm sorry to repeat this point, but I feel I would really like some comment on it - So, for male doms - do you think that female subs should be forced to have intercourse (in the same manner as the OP asked whether male subs should be forced to take a strap on? | |||
| 29 Nov 07, 10:24 PM titchfield UK(CF), 6 yrs |
I'm not sure I can see a reason it would be ok to 'force' a male sub to take a strap-on but not 'force' a female sub to have intercourse. I don't see it as being truly forced either way because I assume consent is involved and safety is considered. If it were genuinely forcing without consent then the ethical issue of strap-on to male or intercourse to female is surely the same thing? | |||
| 30 Nov 07, 2:33 PM cass69 UK, 5 yrs |
It is my belief that if you enter into submissiveness you should take what comes including a strap-on. | |||
| 30 Nov 07, 2:48 PM FluffyHotWaterBottle UK(WC), 4 yrs |
Yes, a lot of the posts above are about the meaning of "forced" and hard limits. Setting all of that thread of discussion aside though,I was interested in the reaction if: * a male dom was meeting a female sub and he asks if she has any hard limits, and she says: yes, I won't have intercourse compared to * a female domme was meeting a male sub and she asks if he has any hard limits, and he says: yes, I won't have a strap on used on me A lot of the posts above are from male subs saying that they won't allow it, and from female dommes saying that they don't particularly want to do it anyway. What about female subs - are there any who won't allow intercourse, and are they any male doms who don't like to penetrate their subs? That's what I'm interested in. |
