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| Wed 31 Oct 07, 10:39 PM The_Inspectre UK, 4 yrs  |
I was wondering if there were any Doms who ever felt just a little bit guilty when you have seen some of your subbie playmates with huge brusing and long lasting pain from a play session.? Or mabye you're proud of your handywork and felt that your playmate should have S/worded? The Inspectre | |
| 31 Oct 07, 10:47 PM glasgowfella2 UK, 5 yrs  |
safe, sane, consensual .......... happy smiles, massive hugs, huge emotions and dark eyes - whats to be guilty about ? and its not all about the degree of bruising if any or the level of pain be it during or post play . GF2
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| 31 Oct 07, 10:48 PM Pierced_Knight 5 yrs |
This is an interesting question as it has made me reflect on a feeling/emotion that I have had but haven't really addressed properly. I suppose that I've just taken it for granted that what I do and the level of what I do sits comfortably with me. I do sometimes look at the *product of my attention* and think, "Jeeeez. Ouch." I wouldn't actually go as far as to say that I'd label the emotion as 'guilt', as the sadistic element of my character knows that it was done within a safe limit. I suppose that I would say that the emotion was one of 'understanding and recognition' alongside 'confusing bewilderment'. Regards, Pierced Knight.
Educate to Liberate! Liberation through Education! | |
| 31 Oct 07, 10:53 PM K_a_tt UK, 5 yrs |
No need to feel guilty at all. Also - I cant speak for everyone but I love to have the marks as a reminder of what we shared. Kat
Every girl is different and it is important to celebrate these differences. | |
| 31 Oct 07, 10:57 PM Kali_Ma UK(B), 5 yrs |
Nope, never =) Founder of the 'Vin Diesel Needs to be Wrestled to the Floor and Licked' Society. | |
| 31 Oct 07, 11:04 PM redgirl93 UK, 4 yrs |
I know my boy sometimes feels bad. The overcoming of taboo (with reference to social conditioning/instinct regarding hurt creatures/hitting women) is part of it for us - I think I'd be shocked if he didn't feel guilty sometimes. And it's good for him to be extra nice to me too - physical trauma is still physical trauma, and a certain amount of care should be taken with your loved one when you've just beaten them up. Not to suggest he's not an extremely nice lad, that's one of the reasons I can encourage him to put me in some pretty rough states because I know he would feel so extra guilty if he ever hurt anything or anyone that WASN'T me. Occasional guilt (which I take care to scoff at gently) is a good thing, if he didn't feel it I would think that he was being in some way 'fake' or 'shallow'.
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| 31 Oct 07, 11:06 PM Mirius UK(GU), 5 yrs |
No, I can't honestly say that I've ever felt guilty. I have felt a twinge of concern what others might think and the consequences of that, but guilt? No. I am a sadist, though it does depend how I'm feeling. When I play I like to see a response, though it isn't especially sexual. However, when I do hurt my partner, that is when it starts getting sexually motivated and I do get off on making her cry. It's a point where safewords do become important, and I have forced a safeword. But I still didn't feel guilty about it. Pain looks good on other people, it's what they're for. | |
| 1 Nov 07, 8:59 AM Red_Spark UK(LE), 5 yrs |
I'm far more likely to feel 'guilty' about some hurt I've caused emotionally - not cuts, bruises or marks. "Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you." | |
| 1 Nov 07, 9:15 AM SteveDs_slut UK, 5 yrs |
What she said | |
| 1 Nov 07, 9:24 AM LadyKeyholder UK, 5 yrs £ |
Naturally trophies are wonderful reminders. It is the one aspect that I really envy subbies for!! The only time I played the regretfully embarrassed Domme was when I hogtied a sub, turned it on its knees, beat its bum and it pitched forward and fractured its nose. OOOPS!! Then I was mortified, but it was many years ago and in all the time I have had but the one "major" incident. Bruises are wonderful works of art, not a source of shame.
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| 1 Nov 07, 9:28 AM lovethatkills UK, 5 yrs |
What I had to overcome/come to terms with was never "guilt" but the slight confusion I felt at wanting to hurt the one person for whom I would do anything to protect from harm. The understanding that she wants to feel this physical expression of my emotions, and be free to express this side of herself, makes all the difference of course. Informed Consent, in a phrase. And, never contemplating how it would look to others outside "the scene" because there's no way they would understand. Nor do we need them to. It may be different for us because we have a monogomous relationship and sex is always a factor in our D/s activities, and the D/s side grew out of what was already there and what we finally felt free and able to express. If you play with others at a club, say, then you accept from the outset that what you're doing is "acceptable". "One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." (Jane Austen) |
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