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| 26 Oct 07, 11:08 PM XyIabion UK, 8 yrs  |
I'm probably going to piss you off here and if I do it's not intentional but doesn't this seem to be a contradiction in terms?
In my view we all have a Dominant side and we all have a submissive side. It's just that for some the extreme Dominant end of the spectrum naturally prevails and for others the extreme submissive end of the spectrum naturally prevails. Then there's everything else in between...
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| 27 Oct 07, 12:53 AM Ciaragh UK(G), 4 yrs |
I think people see what they want to see. Being new I have received a lot of memos. In my profile I have stated that I am naturally dominant, but also have a submissive streak which I would like to explore. I therefore now consider myself as a switch. However, the only people who seemed to recognise this were mostly other switches. The Doms wrote to me as if I was 100% sub. The subs wrote to me as if I was 100% Domme. A few Doms have suggested that they will soon get rid of any annoying little Domme tendencies I might have. These 'tendencies' are an intrinsic part of me and I have no wish whatsoever to lose them! The subbie streak is something that I wish to understand - I can choose to submit my body, but I will never submit my mind. Estne volumen in toga, an solum tibi libet me videre? | ||||
| 27 Oct 07, 1:11 AM De_Luxe UK, 5 yrs |
I'm not the only one that's met with that then. | ||||
| 27 Oct 07, 10:53 AM Ciaragh UK(G), 4 yrs |
That's exactly what I mean ... the 'silly girl, of course you are really submissive, you just don't know it yet' attitude. Estne volumen in toga, an solum tibi libet me videre? | ||||
| 27 Oct 07, 10:59 AM MelodyB UK(GU), 4 yrs  |
18 years behind the Broom and proud of it! But I'm not a switch. I genuinely didn't know that switches got a hard time. I know a few switches and they always seem to have fun and that's what it's all about after all. As a Witch I have never had a bad experience, the worst I ever come across is a few lines from Monty Python. Maybe I've just been lucky. All my close friends know and the majority of my aquaintences, I don't go round in the pointy hat all the time but I never hide it if I'm asked, for instance, everyone at work knows I never work 21st June or 31st October. And people seem intersted in the alter and broom and stuff scattered around the house. It's me, my attitude is if you don't like it then there are about 5,999,999,999 other people in the world to choose from.
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| 30 Oct 07, 7:04 PM Red_Spark UK(LE), 5 yrs |
Well, you didn't quote the rest of my sentence where I said "... and if one day I discover pleasure in submission...". I was saying that my mind is open to the *possibility* that at some point in the future I may wish to submit, simply because it's not a literal *impossibility*. At present, never having submitted, or wished to do so, or been able to envisage a situation in which I might wish to do so, even looking at it with the greatest possible impartiality I can detect no evidence of switch tendencies! However, even I am not going to claim to be able to predict the future! When I was talking about people's attitudes and bullshit, I was referring to their attitudes to me as a Domme, not to their attitudes to switches or to anybody's personal orientation or practice.
As you say, that's your view. I have as yet been unable to dig up any evidence of subly tendencies in myself, and that is not because I have anything 'against' subs, or switches, or anyone anywhere on the spectrum. I guess it's just a total absence of submission. As I said before, I can't predict the future, but I'll cross that bridge if I come to it! "Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you." Edited 30 Oct 07, 7:05 PM by Red_Spark | ||||
| 30 Oct 07, 7:11 PM lovethatkills UK, 5 yrs |
You say that as if it's a bad thing...
"One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." (Jane Austen) | ||||
| 30 Oct 07, 7:26 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Some of the baddest things are the bestest things! why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | ||||
| 15 Nov 07, 4:53 PM Cuddle_Slut 5 yrs |
 Its obvious innit Switches have the best fun thats our rule 
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| 15 Nov 07, 6:00 PM Mistress_Hypatia UK, 5 yrs |
I've tried bottoming. For about thirty seconds. It completely ruined play for the rest of the evening as I had to sit down and restrain the impulse to cause actual bodily harm (not just SM stuff) to the person who had dared to try to dom me. And that was when I had agreed to it as a demonstration of a particular technique. I find bottoming/subbing an active turn-off - so are you really saying I might have more fun as as switch? Or are you saying that as a non-switching domme, I can't possibly have as much fun as you under any circumstances? |
