subs turning DOM (18)

Tags: Birmingham (B)

Tue 16 Oct 07, 2:46 AM
stourbridge_sub
UK, 16 mths I was just wandering what would turn a sub into a DOM. My only guess is they like me cannot find a DOM partner but still crave the scene and it seems that being DOM will attract a lot more intrest. How can I find my DOM in a scene so crowded with subs.
Edited Tue 16 Oct 07, 2:53 AM by stourbridge_sub

16 Oct 07, 2:47 AM
Abaddon
UK, 5 yrs Nurture
thats all
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16 Oct 07, 8:06 AM
Stakhanovite
UK, 2 yrs
mbsuff wrote:
subs turning DOM
I was just wandering what would turn a sub into a DOM. My only guess is they like me cannot find a DOM partner but still crave the scene and it seems that being DOM will attract a lot more intrest. How can I find my DOM in a scene so crowded with subs.
By the usual methods?
Getting out to munches, clubs, the BBB(you're in West Mids). You can then meet lots of different people, some of whom will be Dominants and talk to them.
Once you've established some friendships who knows what might happen.
As a suggestion, waddya fink?
I shall endeavour to persevere

16 Oct 07, 8:48 AM
heradoringpuppy
UK(WF), 3 yrs
I agree with the two above.
Also keep an open mind as many people will tell you that they themselves learn and change their perception a little, sometimes what 'works' between two people may not be 'pure' 100% Dom/sub.
To experiment & enjoy with the right person can be a good route.
Life saw this Lion needed a true playmate one that compliments me and life gave to me the Wonderful Gift of *GoldsGirl*.

16 Oct 07, 9:15 AM
fussyone
5 yrs
mbsuff wrote:
subs turning DOM
I was just wandering what would turn a sub into a DOM.
Repressed anger discovering a way to vent it.
A need for exercise - those floggers can be heavy.
Getting all the Doms back - taking it out on someone else.
There can be lots of reasons why a person may go from sub to dom - finding that as dom they have more control and they get a taste for it.

16 Oct 07, 9:24 AM
LexieLou
UK(TW), 2 yrs

fussyone wrote:
There can be lots of reasons why a person may go from sub to dom - finding that as dom they have more control and they get a taste for it.
I agree...
Certainly not for the reasons the OP mentioned.. That a sub can't find a Dom.
~ Loving somebody is giving them the ability to destroy you.. But trusting them not to ~

16 Oct 07, 9:33 AM
MsChastity
UK(BS), 5 yrs
I am a switch 50/50 straight down the middle.
I have met in my time some fantastic subs who Dom, however by their own admission they are only faking the act, which can cause huge problems for us real switches, who are both naturally.
However far be it for me to suggest that peeps shouldn't do what they need to.
Please be aware that just because you can hit yourself or someone else, doesn't make you a dominant, that also goes for some of those out there calling themselves pure dominant.
Now that is going to set the cat amoung the pidgeons.
Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit bowl

16 Oct 07, 11:59 AM
debrus
UK(DD), 8 yrs

mbsuff wrote:
subs turning DOM
I was just wandering what would turn a sub into a DOM. My only guess is they like me cannot find a DOM partner but still crave the scene and it seems that being DOM will attract a lot more intrest. How can I find my DOM in a scene so crowded with subs.
Strangely it no easier for a male Dom to find a fem sub so your logic is very flawed there.
people 'turn' dom because they want to experiment, because they find that deep down they weren't sub or its not really them after all.
how do you find your Dom? time and patience, it can take years to find someone.
Debrus
Every love is the love before, In a duller dress. Thats the measure of my lore, Here's my bitterness. Would that a knew a little more, Or very much less.
Dorthy parker, poet.

16 Oct 07, 2:31 PM
Janus_x
UK, 3 yrs

mbsuff wrote:
subs turning DOM
I was just wandering what would turn a sub into a DOM. My only guess is they like me cannot find a DOM partner but still crave the scene and it seems that being DOM will attract a lot more intrest. How can I find my DOM in a scene so crowded with subs.
That wasn't the case for me (see here for more detail), it was more about finding out more about myself. It can be alarming when it happens, in a good way
"What I've found is someone who can contribute to what England has given the world: culture, sophistication, genius and very kinky sex"

16 Oct 07, 7:12 PM
chiraz
UK(B), 5 yrs depends who it is you're with...

16 Oct 07, 7:37 PM
Red_Spark
UK, 23 mths
Perhaps some people ~turn~ Dom because they ~are~ Dom - or switch...
Just a thought.
"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

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