Posted by ghost666 on Fri 28 Sep 07, 10:09 AM to ghost666's blog.
not a particulary difficult concept i feel.
one that is easily damaged irrepairiably.
after having a couple of days away from doing my normal stuff, spending most of it in "counselling" mode i find this morning im so god dam angry.
lies, deception, cheating, secret flirting, hidden contact, lies to faces and betrayal seem to be the main thing in life for so many.
ive heard....oh and yeah non of these people are from IC, ...
that someones husband has been claiming to go to evening classes once a week .....shagging the babysitter.
a "partner" is clearly having online/text/phonecall relationship behind the others back...and i dont mean "hi how are you?"...partner at home just found out
someone else is shagging best mate behind her "partners" back and thinks its funny...discovered at a pool match in ladies toilets!!!
and someone else has found out there are children from previous relationship hidden away....letters at His mums house
what the fuck has gone on in the world?
is it me or is that far FAR from acceptable???
when you commit, in which ever way you commit to someone are you not meant to stop running about flirting, fucking, engaging in inappropriate behaviour????
my advice, as i do say exactly how i feel is to walk away.
NOONE deserve to feel that pain of finding out about another person.
i believe that your with someone ...end of...if you are looking else where...there is something very very wrong.
what else has been made clear is the 3rd person in the "relationships" are completly aware of the other partner sat at home!!!!!!
stunned!!!!!
i have been the person accussed of fucking someone and destroying relationships once in my life......i know how untruthful that was, being the one finding out every bloke im with has always cheated has always prevented myself from being involved as anything but a friend....
yes i do believe very strongly that males can have female friends and vice versa so its not a case of "jumping to conclusions"
when you ask someone outright "is there someone else?" and you get what ever answer you get, thats a fantastic chance to say the truth surely?
i dont give a toss how much i love someone ...how much energy has been invested in the relationship or how complicated a split would be...
i will never stay with anyone being unfaithful EVER
flirting , fucking, leading another on, recipricating these "come ons" also to me is just as bad.
saying to your "other 'alf" as you leave for work "love you"...should actually count.
LOVE should mean something.
there is no other betrayal as deep as this in MY opinion.
if your partner /wife/husband/whatever they are to you finds out you are in their mind going behind your back...do you really expect them to stay?
3 of my mates right now are hurting because of blatant inability to control their cocks.
cheating comes in many forms
ultimatly once you have been cheated on....your never relaxed it isnt happening again.
I WILL walk away no matter what if i was in this situation again.
i WILL leave the hapiness i hold so dearly if i knew i was being cheated on...
i DON'T believe in second chances whatsoever.
i used to, i found they are never all as solid as they seem.
maybe i live in a fantasy world...
maybe i live in cloud cuckoo land...
but if you aint in a poly relationship that has been agreed on all 3 sides..no deviation....if you are not aware your other 'alf is in a poly relationship...
pack yer kit and fuck off.
don't look back
GO.
these are MY opinions...MY values...MY stance on MY perception.
Noone gives anyone the right to lie...cheat and have unhealthy relations bhind anothers back.
if you aint got truth , honesty or respect..you really are so much better without that person
if you are not valued or cherish that much....
well id be packing......and that opinion WILL NEVER change
Edited Fri 28 Sep 07, 10:20 AM by ghost666
