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| Mon 27 Aug 07, 2:36 PM William3leet UK, 5 yrs  |
..position as a dom or sub? I ask because really since I joined IC I have made it my mission to become an attractive, confident person who women will love to be around. Part of my strategy for this has been to move away from being a pushover submissive, as I really don't think it serves me, or any man, well. My plan was to become more "vanilla" but it looks like I am starting to position myself more as a switch. And I will tell you what made me feel this way. I was talking to a girl on my msn list, who is effectively a switch (although she knows nothing about BDSM). We have "scened" before, but it was with me as the submissive. She loved being worshipped etc. Now much more recently I initiated a scene with myself at the top. She liked it, and so did I. In fact I was pretty surprised how turned on I got... So this marks a turning point for me, because all the other dom stuff I had done didn't turn me on at all! Maybe it's time to crack open the bubbly!!! Cheers. | |
| 27 Aug 07, 2:52 PM MissElenaReturns 5 yrs |
I've gone from Mistress Elena to one very happy loved sub. If you find the right person, you'll find your role naturally. I'm usually Dominant, but I don't think I'd get away with it if I so much as ave my partner Domly eyes! G'luck "Once you put your hand into the flame, you can never be the same. There's a certain satisfaction, in a little bit of pain." | |
| 27 Aug 07, 3:02 PM Abaddon UK, 8 yrs |
imo all the best dom/me's started out at the bottom
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| 27 Aug 07, 3:07 PM William3leet UK, 5 yrs |
Great!  Excellent to hear it! | |
| 1 Sep 07, 8:44 PM Italia_Vamp IT, 6 yrs £  |
I switch but my submissive side is stronger and comes more naturally.
'Dont stop honking....I'm just reloading' | |
| 1 Sep 07, 8:59 PM lisal 9 yrs |
In my experience this isn't true at all But, yes, it's perfectly possible to change from one to to the other. Most important thing is that you both enjoy what you are doing
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| 2 Sep 07, 9:02 AM Vega47 ZA, 7 yrs |
The truth will out | |
| 2 Sep 07, 9:15 AM De_Luxe UK, 5 yrs |
Perhaps you discover in the course of time where you are the happiest and most 'at home'. Maybe it depends who you are with and how you feel about them. | |
| 2 Sep 07, 9:21 AM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs   |
You can only say 'all' if you know them all - and you don't. Plus you're saying that being a sub is at the bottom - the bottom of what?
Lady Anna http://www.ladyanna.co.uk/ | |
| 2 Sep 07, 9:35 AM Diamondlil 5 yrs |
Maybe its good to sub at some point, to give you a better understanding of the bottom and make you a more effective Dom. I wont, because I couldnt and it's not in me, but I can see how it may work for some people. For me, one of the main attributes of being a Dom is to never go in thinking you know the score 100%. I have to be in control of the submissive, but without input from the submissive, my experience is rendered innefective. For example, if she goes down on me, and there is something that works better for me, i will let her know. This does not mean she is doing anything wrong, but with the right input, the experience will be more fullfilling for both parties. The same applies for me in D/s, It's not all about my pleasure; sometimes, (which I love) she gives me a map, and I decide where we are going and do the driving. D.x | |
| 2 Sep 07, 4:08 PM BigOldHector UK(DE), 10 yrs |
So it is often said. And is equally often wrong. I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now |
