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| Violently |
Sometimes I feel so alien - I suspect that I'm a not so casual play person - atleast not where it comes to meeting with someone from off the internet; simply because we share a mutual interest in X activity.
It's a bit frustrating for me in that recently I've struck up a conversation with a couple of people and all it seems we have to talk about is X activity. Or rather... all they seem to want to talk with me about is X activity.
So instead of X activity being a point of interest and something we have in common, It's fast becoming something I'm not all that interested in.
Maybe it's because my kink isn't the activities in themselves and I can't say that I love doing this and I could do this all the time with anyone... It's always been that I love doing this at that time which is of the moment and outside of that moment; it is hardly something I think about doing.
Is that confusing? Sure i like X activity plenty! And I fantasize about doing X activity. I just can't seem to apply that desire to the context...
It's like I can't answer the question " Would you like to do X activity with me?" The answer is "I don't know" or maybe the answer is " I'm not sure if I can be bothered"
| 27 Aug 07, 11:15 AM Northern_Phoenix UK, 8 yrs |
Strangely, I know the feeling. Maybe because of the nature of the site, but it's kind of obviously an 'in' to conversation in a lot of ways - things written on profiles, posts/blogs made... But for me it's a fairly big indicator of things going nowhere (and mostly that's even in terms of an enduring friendship) if it's the ONLY conversation. And I'll admit that there have more than likely been times when I've been guilty of it too.
Of course, it's easier to find that common ground with some people more than others, and some people don't want to find it at all, and with conversation being a two way street sometimes things just won't ever move on. Open, multi-faceted people are a joy Ok, so this is a bit of a useless reply in that it's all just stating the obvious, but it's a universal problem! Phoenix When a man loves a woman it should be understood, | |
| 27 Aug 07, 11:18 AM Demonatrixx 6 yrs |
Easy to feel used in that situation. People who don't get much opportunity to play become rather obsessed with it. Tunnel vision. Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else. Edited 27 Aug 07, 11:45 AM by Demonatrixx | |
| 27 Aug 07, 1:36 PM simonelibra UK, 5 yrs |
yes, I understand what you mean Violently thats why I like munches, you meet people and often talk about everything under the sun except the reason why you attend the munch if you like someone you can find out about them, what other things they are interested in and of course, whether you both click simone x Do not follow the path, go where there is no path to begin the trail - Ashanti Proverb Edited 27 Aug 07, 1:37 PM by simonelibra |
