Posted by Bbdspls on Sun 5 Aug 07, 11:32 AM to Bbdspls's blog.
except it isn't just the submissive, it's the Dom too & though it's easy to pretend that the miles don't matter & that it could be far worse; we could be separated by even more miles, continents even, like so many others who enter into relationships that become much more important than the original intent. When we started, it was a bit of fun & release for both of us, it became almost 3 years of surrender of the most intense & private kind & it led to feelings that neither of us thought we would have to contend with.
But it isn't just the physical ache, the loneliness & the quiet moments spent wondering where the other is, what they are doing; it's the practical too - most people know I'm a single mum & looking at the expense of a round trip across the country being in the region of a hundred pounds, much as I adore my Bbd, he is a luxury I can no longer afford. Mobile phones, extra shopping, hell even trips to get my ladybits waxed, the money had to come from somewhere & I'm not sure it would go down as essential living expenses on my Working Tax Credit, even though it was all pretty essential to me.
And he too. Three & a half hours drive minimum each way, provided the roads & traffic are kind, whilst fitting in work & a life that doesn't include his little one. Long hours working in the city, trying to juggle time; the impossibility of trying to be in two places at once; invitations to distant weddings that have been refused due to his commitment to me, hundreds of miles away in a pretty inaccessible spot.
There comes a day when the time doesn't add up, the money doesn't add up & the strain of keeping a D/s dynamic alive over those endless weeks apart becomes more of a worry, more of a burden & looking at those welts & bruises from the infrequent times we spent together, becomes a source of sadness - my Bbd knew that I don't do drop very well & neither did he, if the truth be known.
Talking on the phone, on the internet, writing heartfelt blogs about the drama & wonderfulness of it all. In the end, it just wasn't enough for either of us: there were tearful conversations, long hours spent holding each other into the night & a decision was reached, oh so painful, but being realistic, being honest, we had to accept that it wasn't working for either of us.
So, after much stress, several thousand miles of round trips, swearing, bumps & bruises of the most unpleasant kind & the final insult of running out of diesel with a van full of furniture & beany bears & rose trees...
Bbd & pls are happy to announce that they finally got their collective sh*t together & are resident, together with girls & McDogg, in sunny Kent!
Though there may be much future blogging about the loss of various items of bondage equipment, because the contents of the dank & dismal dungeon of Dom Manor has had to be hidden from little eyes!
Happy Sunday everyone 
pls x
| 5 Aug 07, 11:35 AM Glass_Splinterz 5 yrs |
I really wasn't sure where this blog was going... as I suspect was the intention But I was very happy to read the ending. good luck to you and yours. | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:37 AM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs   |
What a wonderful happy blog,
Be happy be safe and be loved and cherished xxxx life saw i needed a true playmate one that compliments me and life brought to me *GoldMane* | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:37 AM Blubell UK(PH), 6 yrs |
Thank gawd for that, I thought it was another break up... Congrats to you both and many many hours of happiness wished your way Blu x Always smile, give everyone something to wonder about | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:38 AM RavenMuse 6 yrs |
Grats to both and you are now SO close 
{fx=posh voice} I'll have My people call your people. We must do lunch dahlink! Well meet for a coffee or pint at least. It'll be good to meet the pair of you 'in the flesh' | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:38 AM helena_helena UK, 7 yrs |
Such good news! Best of luck ~ "I am here to live aloud." -- E. Zola ~ | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:40 AM Priapuss UK(PO), 4 yrs |
The long journey to where you are now seems to have paid off and I wish you well and happy in your new life. Now you are there you still have to make it work on a daily basis. Distance has a habit of tugging at the heart strings for more reasons that emotional. Enjoy Today's the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:40 AM littlestarlight UK, 6 yrs |
Bout bloody time ! Soooo very happy for you both. We all certainly felt the pain for you when you couldn't be together. Now things can only go on wards and up wards! Every happiness to you star & Maugrim. submissive from the core Edited 5 Aug 07, 11:47 AM by littlestarlight | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:45 AM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs  |
You cow (but I mean that in a nice way). As I was reading that the back of my mind was screaming, "why can't they move in together? What's stopping them? Is she going to tell us why it's not possible? Keep reading to find the answer. Go on hurry up. Oh they did. The cow." Congratulations. Mr Shine! Him Diamond! | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:46 AM Bbdspls UK, 7 yrs |
Awww shucks, thank you everyone I'm sure this will prove more of a challenge than I thought - not least because I can't find my clean t-shirts & Bbd had that glint in his eye when he woke up to find me wearing his this morning!
absence of evidence is not evidence of absence | |
| 5 Aug 07, 11:48 AM kate_uk UK(SP), 7 yrs |
Thats wonderful news.. kate |
