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| 25 Jul 07, 8:56 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs   |
What about being made to look her in the eyes when in a public place she is doing her best to distract you with her cleavage? Punishment for lowering one's gaze ... | ||
| 25 Jul 07, 9:04 PM Viskan IS, 6 yrs |
I usually have my eyes closed when during a play as a submissive/masochist, but I need to be able to open my eyes and look into the Doms eyes... it's rather important to me because when I look into peoples eyes I can see some of what they are feeling aswell  I've sold my soul, my body - Swept away by dreams, illusions - Fragments of my own imagination - Played by feelings emotions | ||
| 25 Jul 07, 9:22 PM sub121 UK, 5 yrs |
In villna life I find eye contact important, its a part of communication. But in a session no eye contact is part of the session. I have had many sessions in clubs and the doms I play with will not allow eye contact. | ||
| 27 Jul 07, 1:44 PM firemynx_B UK(B), 11 yrs |
Depends on the situation really dosen't it? At times it could be "Did I tell you to look at me?" and other times "look at me! NOW!"
I don't think there should be a set rule, I am not a "eyes lowered" type submissive, I don't see myself as beneath anyone, simply because I chose to be submissive, just another side of a coin "Dear Santa ........ I can explain!" | ||
| 27 Jul 07, 5:09 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
Eye contact is incredibly powerful and there are some areas of play where I couldn't do without it. However, because I recognise this as a powerful thing...I like to restrict it for certain periods....so that when it is given back, it's all pretty mindblowing. I'm also really aware that many subs find it difficult to look into eyes - that's where rules of restriction and commanding the sub to look into your eyes work - it's amusing to make them hold a stare knowing they have no choice but to comply! | ||
| 27 Jul 07, 5:10 PM saffron_2006 UK, 5 yrs |
I echo these sentiments, Master tells me to either look or not look at him, we have no set rule so to speak. Paramaster1's angel | ||
| 27 Jul 07, 5:41 PM Fluter UK(CV), 5 yrs |
I normally expect eye-contact from a sub, especially if I'm speaking to them. If I want "eyes down" I say so. | ||
| 1 Aug 07, 8:41 AM Vega47 ZA, 7 yrs |
Oh Yes! Eye contact, most definitely! My Mistress has the most wonderful sparkling eyes. The truth will out | ||
| 1 Aug 07, 5:34 PM Priapuss UK(PO), 4 yrs |
Eye contact works for me 90% of the time. Although it depends on the play when the element of surprise is required or desired. I don't want to give away any tells now do I. | ||
| 1 Aug 07, 5:45 PM blackdude UK(E), 7 yrs |
At the beginning of a D/s relationship I found that the submissive is more comfortable not making direct eye contact, perhaps she thinks she's disclosing too much, it's too intimate and we've only just met, adhering to a strict interpretation of their role as they percieve it. Then as you embark upon that distinct journey she has the confidence and trust to look me straight in the eye, deliberately to enhance the intimate eroticism of the situation. Without eye contact I would soon lose interest. |
