Posted by feitheachd on Fri 6 Jul 07, 7:05 PM to feitheachd's blog.
I've always been troubled by the idea of incorporating humiliation “play” in a Mistress / slave relationship. I have tended to think that, no matter how carefully the scenario is planned; how rigorously boundaries are adhered to; how much the slave wants to attend to his Mistress's selfish (in a good way) desires and how much trust there is between the parties, there remains an intrinsic negativity to the concept.
However, despite being troubled by that negativity, my id more often than not trumps my super-ego and I find myself daydreaming about all sorts of delicious degradations.
I hate such dichotomies and so I've been trying to find a way of squaring the circle and, of course, what I mean by that is finding a way of providing my analytical supervisor with a justification for the caprices of my libido.
So thank goodness John Donne gave me a clue.
| ”Humiliation is the beginning of sanctification.” - John Donne – |
Donne was no doubt referring to Christian idea of sanctification whereby the body is offered as a living sacrifice in order to begin the journey towards holiness.
However, I can regard the process of sanctification the evolution towards becoming the slave that my Mistress desires, and there is no doubt that humility is a vital component of that process. Surrender has to be offered in a spirit of humility, with no strings attached and no hidden agenda; offered because its acceptance is the greatest possible reward.
Humiliation therefore becomes a tool that can be used to re-enforce and encourage that humbleness, which in turn deepens the sense of surrender.
Thus, all the divisions of the psyche are satisfied by humiliation:
The super-ego is satisfied because its sense of morality has been comforted and it is always happy with positive evolution.
The id is satisfied because it thinks humiliation is hot and is already working on a debasing spitting scenario.
And the ego is content as long as the other two are getting along.
| 6 Jul 07, 7:37 PM MsArachne IT, 6 yrs  |
It has been a long journey to understanding, but I had faith that you would get there in the end. I am so pleased that you have finally found a way to assimilate the ideology. Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~Anais Nin |
