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RE: A new period in our life - and a new beginning we hope

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Posted by bunnyRys on Fri 11 Jun 04, 1:29 PM to bunnyRys's blog.

How committed can a couple be if a 7 or 8 week stint of 'no-sex' equals a license to cheat for ˝ that couple?

On June 28th, I will be visiting Canada for 3 weeks. During that time, I expect that my boyfriend/Dom will be faithful to me as I will be with him. If I was gone for three or four or even five times that long, I would expect the same level of commitment as we are in love and have a monogamous relationship.

Moreover, I respect the physical safety of my Dom. Before we became intimate, we were thoroughly tested for STD's. I would not allow, nor be expected to be allowed to have sexual relations with an outside party for fear that something may be contracted. And for those of you who foolishly believe that condoms give full protection please read http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/facts/condoms.htm.

Your sub may have agreed or even suggested the arrangement under duress or out of a “will to please” Should you decide to cheat on her she will have questions such as “Is she more skilled than me in bed?” or “Is she better looking than me?” which she may be too shy or scared to ask. Also, at the moment you 'know' that when she is recovered the cheating will stop, BUT how can you be sure that this is the case? What if you develop feelings for this other person?

Hive'Master', I strongly suggest you avoid the inclination to cheat during this period and instead invest the extra energy from abstaining from sex into helping your sub recover both physically and mentally from this major operation.

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