Posted by bunnyRys on Tue 15 Jul 03, 11:14 AM to bunnyRys's blog.
I read with interest Thomasjanes web log on D/s entitled “which comes first?” and as such developed this starter list of D/s Dos and Don'ts. This list is derived from personal experience and is geared towards the psychological aspects rather than the mechanical such as personal preferences or safe words. Please feel free to write me with suggestions:
Dos & Don'ts for D/s Relationships
- Do discuss emotional triggers or abuse history pre-play
- Don't use D/s to hide from life, you are responsible for your decisions even if you made the decision to give certain “rights” to your Dom
- Do discuss sexual and BDSM limits, rape means different things to different people
- Don't have important discussions during sub or Dom-drop
On a personal note, I'm a completely knackered and
happy bunny! Recently, I've had some fun casual play
and decided I'm quite content to slowly enjoy what life
may offer me. Maybe it's the gorgeous weather or the
British laid back attitude but I've become noticeably
more relaxed since my arrival. Its funny how in the
States or Canada there's such a rush to get things done
immediately but in the long run, does it matter if
something is completed today or tomorrow? Course, I
should manage things a bit better I suppose, my
neighbors already hate me because I'm ... uh … vocal 
… doing laundry at 3 am can't help matters!
Edited Tue 15 Jul 03, 2:01 PM by bunnyRys
