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| 8 May 07, 11:53 AM Hermaphroditus 9 yrs |
I think you have a good profile, and will probably get a response to it in time. Its normal for many of the people here not to reply to messages- don't worry about it. |
| 8 May 07, 11:56 AM 167-568-518 6 yrs  |
Thank you, though i have been editing it due to suggests from this post so I will see what happens. |
| 8 May 07, 12:00 PM Sinmara UK(N), 6 yrs  |
yeah, I think your profile is alright, better than most! ------------------------------------------- This is the Island of Zombie Women |
| 8 May 07, 12:20 PM prettyname UK(NW), 11 yrs |
Don't let non-responses get you down. Just know they're then not the type of person for you afterall and move on.
I read your profile and it looks fine, comes across as human, sincere, shows a bit of your personality in there and a couple of things that you'd particularly like. Sounded good to me! Good luck
~“Nothing is ever the same as they said it was. It's what I've never seen before that I recognise.” Diane Arbus~ |
| 8 May 07, 12:37 PM Boots247 UK, 7 yrs |
Like some others have said, your profile is good and some of your own photos are ok, but its not all down to a profile.
Over time you will find that most people like chat more than action, and if you end up meeting a Domme (without paying for her time) just from memos alone, then well done !!
Its best to get out to events and munches and see what's about, some of the events will be aimed more at couples and swingers (nothing new there), sadly very few people get out and meet up, so you are still limited.
Personally I would forget looking for a Domme on the internet and the scene, get down your local pub and mix, you will be surprised at the amount of people into bdsm and are not on the scene, plus you could also convert a nice lady as that's quite easy if you do this right, then you can enjoy the scene as a more acceptable couple, I wish you luck.
Chewing on my latex!! |
| 8 May 07, 12:56 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
If you're doing all that you say you're doing...then why would you want to be with someone who is rude enough not to reply to your memos or send you a nasty one. Your profile is pretty good....keep on in there and you'll find some of us take the time to respond! |
| 8 May 07, 1:21 PM 167-568-518 6 yrs |
Thanks for all your support and help its really made my day  |
| 8 May 07, 2:00 PM BoundAndGaggedMan 5 yrs |
It is difficult, and there really is no right or wrong way to go about meeting people. The wrong thing to do is take non replies as personal comments. As a fellow sub, we have to respect that Dommes get an awfull lot of memos from people and they may not be able to respond to them due to time constraints and the fact that they have to filter the good people from the time wasters. I agree that it is annoying, especialy because you seem to be taking the time to construct memos that should deserve at least a small reply, but just keep it up. Visit any munches you can (even ones not in your area, as word of mouth can affect opinion) and have your say on the site. As they say, anticipation is half of the fun!! You will get the reply you are after when you least expect it.. |
| 8 May 07, 2:34 PM topscore UK(NN), 5 yrs |
Be yourself and just treat the approach like you would any other dating approach. You may be all lathered up in the moment when you write a memo with head-popping sexual lust but the recipient almost certainly won't be. Just be cool, witty, easy and confident (or flustered in a funny panicked way, or shy in a sweet way, or insolent in an amusing cheeky-chappy way - whatever works for you) - same as you would when hitting on someone in a bar or a club or the beach or at a bus stop or in a bouncy castle. The chemistry (which can transmit over cyber space whatever anyone else tells you) will work or it won't. No need to be heavy or desperate. Women like to be seduced, even if the end outcome is "whack-whack, you are grovelling, worthless, snivelling knave", so be seductive! Above all, treat the recipient of the message as a person and not a fantasy object onto which you want to project your desires. Address the person and make her understand that you are interested in her for who she is and not for which itch of yours you want scratched. Simple really! |
| 8 May 07, 8:49 PM InformedContempt 5 yrs |
The way I see it is the problem could be different levels of comfort for different people at different stages. I think the fetish scene tends to be just that, the fetish scene. It is kind of "entrenched" for want of a better word. It could be a kind of alien thing which lacks a ladder into it. Its a bit like the fetish scene is the sexaul equivalent of a huge expensive mansion. In order to obtain the mansion though you need to work your way up the property ladder, I think the fetish scene could be like an inaccessible mansion which lacks smaller properties around it to work ones way up with. To understand what Im trying to get at replace "varying houses of value" with: "Outlets for people interested in discovering fetish of varying explicitness for whatever stage of comfort a comer into the scene is at at the time" Because few can run before they can walk or something like that. I made that post as a freind tells me some Dommes want to do the equivalent of a guitarist who widdles in his bedroom. As much as they want it, they arent too sure about jumping in the deep end. Just more waffling from me as usual. Edited 8 May 07, 8:52 PM by InformedContempt |
