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Posted by lili
on Sat 30 Sep 00, 10:02 PM to lili's blog.
To live as a submissive in a patriarchal society involves a great deal of personal power. We learn to survive the everyday challenges with the additional burden of a nature which does not fit well into the "dog eat dog" mentality of life in the 21st century.
We hold down jobs and bring up our children. We adopt suitable personas. Our lovers' ideal partner, our parents' ideal child our bosses' ideal worker and our friends' ideal friend. Somewhere, hidden amongst all these two dimensional characters is ourselves.
We are the adult (serious and thoughtful), the parent (sensible and controlling) and we are the child (youthful and playful).
On first discovering the name for all our feelings (and fears) we feel joyful and relieved. We are grateful because at last we have the answer to all those un- asked questions. We think that we know who we are and we believe that we now know what we need. We believe that to be ourselves we need to release the supressed part of our personalities. We are told (and we believe) that we must become the child.
I believe that we need to be whole again. We need to stop using only aspects of our personalities to portray ideal characters. We need to be whole. We need to be the adult, the parent and the child.
We don't have to stifle the adult or the parent to let out the child. We don't need to stop being strong, responsible, sensible or indeed controlling if the time or circumstances require that aspect of our personality. We just need to feel safe enough with at least one person in our lives to let the child out to play. We simply need someone who loves all the aspects of our wonderful selves. The parent, the adult and that loveable child.
Education and knowledge is the key to empowerment. Learn yourself and learn to look for a Master who is able to learn you too. Be strong and continue to look after yourself (at least as well as you have up until now). Discovering and accepting your need to feel powerless at the feet of a Master who cares for you is not the same as being powerless in the face of circumstance or one who will abuse you.
Edited Fri 6 Jul 01, 9:47 PM by lili
