| 23 Apr 07, 8:25 AM hopespringseternal 6 yrs  |
Assuming that all of this isn't just some flight of fancy, and that it did actually happen, you can turn it back. Go back to the police, tell them you made a false statement and clear the guy's name.
"shake my body release my soul punish my senses lose control" | ||
| 23 Apr 07, 1:37 PM Julesbloke UK(SA), 5 yrs  |
Bethy - you need to see a professional who can help you work out how much of this is truth and how much fantasy,
once you have done that they may well be able to help you decide what you need to do to resolve things correctly.
if by chance someone was imprisoned on your evidence that you now know to be false you must act. So go get some help and at least you find calm in all the confusion be well julian | ||
| 23 Apr 07, 5:56 PM bethy4ever 8 yrs |
He was set free, yes, the case wouldn't stick and was just my word against his, there were others but they wouldn't come out of hiding. It's just very confusig and wish I could stop dwelling. snugglebug | ||
| 23 Apr 07, 9:02 PM yoda_dog UK(HP), 6 yrs |
Ok, you said this....
Then this...
Which contradict each other (in case you didn't realise that). So which is correct? Surely you're not making this up?
"Heaven doesn't want me, and Hell thinks I'll take over" | ||
| 24 Apr 07, 4:04 PM bethy4ever 8 yrs |
No, he was put under arrest and sent down, the case didnt stick. Am sorry if this is very confusing, and I do appreciate it that it is. I'd like to call an end to this thread please. Thank you. snugglebug | ||
| 24 Apr 07, 10:24 PM Scherezade UK(B), 6 yrs |
Then you must see that wrongs have been done. Its a very fine line between supporting friends and colluding. Its good that Bethy has your understanding and compassion but sometimes more is needed. I'd rather be a nasty warning than a good example. | ||
| 5 May 07, 8:17 PM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs   |
If he was 'sent down' then he wasn't 'freed cos the case wouldn't stick'. Sent down means being found guilty and sent to prison. Okay, having cleared that up, let's look at your experience, in YOUR OWN WORDS; you describe the event in the following manner:
Afterwards, you go on to say that you 'were convinced' that you had been abused and coerced once someone found out what had happened, despite staying the weekend with him (which was your choice) and asking HIM to provide you with 'your first sexual experience'. It sounds like someone found out that you played with someone you shouldn't have (they belonged to someone else? That part wasn't clear) and this was the easiest 'blame free' way to explain it. The poor sod now has a criminal record against him (yes, they keep notes) because YOU couldn't accept responsibility for your actions. Part of the reason there is an age of consent is because sexual activity requires a certain amount of mental maturity. Maturity you don't have (as and when it suits you not to). Forgive me if i sound harsh, but as an ACTUAL victim of an ACTUAL rape, allegations like yours make me sick to my stomach. In your case, it was lucky that there wasn't enough evidence to get an innocent man put away. In mine (like thousands of others) the same conclusion was UNlucky - he is still walking the streets. EVERY TIME someone does this it makes it harder for the REAL victims. Grow the fuck up. If you can't face the consequences of your actions, don't have sex. I can't be dealing with the turning on & off of the baby-child-immature thing as and when it suits you...you're either old enough to have sex (and accept the responsibility that goes with it), or you're not. ~ = ~ = ~ = xcLx = ~ = ~ = ~ Edited 5 May 07, 8:56 PM by Crystal_Eyes | ||
| 18 Aug 11, 6:11 PM Pauls_babybeth UK(KT), 5 yrs |
strange dark memories that come up occasionally, glad I got closer to the truth now, which was the things that happened that weekend were under consent, and i made many many mistakes - I have cleared it all up now. I lovesss bears |
