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| 7 Apr 07, 9:24 PM Madam_Connie_N_Guy 5 yrs |
Very true, even outside of the BDSM world nothing gets a labourer/tradesman working that bit harder than a slightly too short a skirt. | |||
| 7 Apr 07, 9:25 PM Chris_H 5 yrs  |
is it like cock au van.without the sauce? we all blame society, but are we not society? | |||
| 7 Apr 07, 9:31 PM Deviant_Bitch UK(G), 6 yrs  |
I had written a very long reply that was off topic but in summary. I believe that alot of men who live this sort of lifestyle do so because they want to please rather than they are ordered to do so. When a smile means more than an order you know you are doing something right. God put me in charge so it is all my fault... sorry. | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 12:31 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs  |
Having lived most of my life in the "vanilla" way I am trying to understand what others gain from it or wish to gain from it. I have chatted with several members of this site and a few of them (all male subs btw) have mentioned that one of their kinks is to be a cuckold, that it would be an honour to be one and that they would gain a lot of satisfaction from it. It is so completely opposite to the monogamous relationships that I was used to that I am finding it a little difficult to comprehend that a man wants to serve a woman, be a partner to a woman and then have her choose to take other male partners and flout her experiences to her partner. It is easier for me to understand it when one does not have a significant partner but, when one does... I don't know, it's just something I am trying to figure out. If I had a significant partner I would not feel good about myself if they felt they had to take other partners because they felt I was not able to give them all that they want/need/desire. Of all the D/s dynamics.... this one baffles me the most, at the moment and I would really like to understand it more. I would love to sit and have a chat with a male who desires to be a cuckold and hear all that he has to say about it, why it is so important and desirable to him, his reasons may not be the same as the next cuckold... but it might help me to hear what he has to say. Don't get me wrong, I have had, and continue to have, a few subs/slaves at one time and each one fulfills a different need in me but I have not had a significant partner at the same time as having all my other subs, they all know that I see others and don't have a problem with it, thank goodness, but, if I had a significant partner.... I am not sure I would be able to respect him if he desired me to put it about and give him all the details of what I had done with other men. Oddly enough, I think I would only feel like that if my partner were a sub.... if he were a Dom and told me to do exactly the same thing.... I could happily accept his wishes and still respect him, as long as he didn't pimp me out or choose the men I should play with. When I have got my head around it, I may see it all in an entirely different light. ~Desperately trying to understand why I feel like this as well as why some men desire it.~
C x Edited 8 Apr 07, 12:33 AM by chartreuse | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 1:00 AM bruffterman UK, 6 yrs £ |
In such a situation your wife/partner/ most likely Mistress, has obviously valued the qualities in you as the highest, that is your loyalty, your servitude, submissiveness, your deep and powerful worship of her. Are all far more important to her than a good screw is. Hence why she has chosen you for her partner and not the guy with the big dick. I suppose the cuckolding part it's self is a lot like chastity, firstly in involves the sub in some way with the sexual act, it helps to re enforce the idea of the sub's gratification coming purely from his Mistress' pleasure. And it enforces the idea that his Mistress has a very real and very powerful control over him. | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 3:01 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs |
I know I could not be happy with it and, much as I may like or enjoy a sub who desires it and can even cuckold him in that role, I would not be able to accept him as my chosen life-partner. We all have different kinks but devoting myself to someone who would be happy for me to have sex, or fulfill a variety of desires with others is not what I seek. To those that do have this desire and are either a cuckold or have a cuckold partner, I make no judgement... it's not for me to do. As long as all parties are happy with what they do, then that is all that matters.
C x | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 3:05 AM kinkydory UK, 8 yrs |
I use to think I would enjoy it but that was only a fantasy. In real life it would or could not work for me. | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 10:10 AM chartreuse UK(BA), 6 yrs |
Thank you to all of you who have contributed to this thread and also bothered to PM me about this subject... it has been really interesting to hear what others think about cuckolding. I have made my mind up... I will never understand why people desire to be cuckolded in a LTR... but "Horses for courses" and all that, eh? When playing with subs and NOT having a LTR with anyone.... I can do it... but, if in a LTR, I couldn't.
C x | |||
| 8 Apr 07, 9:51 PM Boots247 UK, 7 yrs |
If it works for you, then this is good.
Chewing on my latex!! | |||
| 14 Apr 07, 10:01 PM Madam_Connie_N_Guy 5 yrs |
its worked so far |
with a smile of course!
i think its a good idea for high maintenance and demanding women like moi hehe x