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Not perfect but happy (3)

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Posted by tek_sub on Sat 31 Mar 07, 9:09 PM to tek_sub's blog.

I'm a pretty competitive person. No, really, I hate being last. And I really hate being second.

My problem is that I'm lacking in talent in so many things. But there are also many things I'm really very good at. Nevertheless, I beat myself up over the things I can't achieve.

Therefore I put myself under a lot of pressure. However, over the past few months, I've (finally) decided to concentrate all my energies on the things I do really well, and forget about everything else. This is A Good Thing. It means I am now confident and comfortable with what I can do. It is not case of "I'm not playing anymore, 'cos I don't like this game". I have achieved many things in life, and will continue to do so. By not dwelling on failure or perceived inadequacies, I can achieve much more.

Take for example, music. I write music. I enjoy writing music. A couple of times I've been asked to play keyboards in a band. Which I've done. However, I really can't play for toffee. I've ended up putting a lot of effort in and still feeling crap at it. I don't have the time to do huge quantities of practice, nor do I have enough natural talent to wing it. Now, rather than beating myself up over my lack of talent, I have decided to admit defeat and not put myself through the mill. Instead, I will concentrate on what I like doing best...writing. I will look back upon the gigs as a great experience, which I'm really grateful I had the chance to do...and move on. And I will not be jealous of people who do have talent...for they will have spent long hours getting to that level and won't be as good as me at other things.

Edited Sun 1 Apr 07, 7:47 PM by tek_sub

Replies

31 Mar 07, 9:41 PM
grateful_servent
UK(B), 4 yrs
I would say only do things that you enjoy! However it is likley that you enjoy the things you are really good at, so I agree with your comments. Good for you, and I may also do the same.
31 Mar 07, 10:05 PM
Deviant_Bitch
UK(G), 6 yrs

Knowing you are good at something is more than alot of people realise. It is good for the soul to be wonderful at something and be happy in doing it. I wish you well with your writing.

God put me in charge so it is all my fault... sorry.

1 Apr 07, 7:48 PM
tek_sub
UK, 7 yrs
Thanks for the kind comments.

tek

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