Power Exchange - Nature or Nurture??? (11)

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25 Mar 07, 7:50 PM
Insistor
UK, 4 yrs

alexandraa wrote:

Insistor wrote:
In any D/s relationship a Dominant's control is invariably reinforced with (at least) a little spanking or rough treatment -to the enjoyment of both partners. This blurs any such hard-and-fast distinction.
That wasn't my point, and personally I know I am a masochist as well as a submissive and love both SM and power exchange. However there are plenty of Ds relationships out there without any SM in them whatsoever. If you dont enjoy SM then why have it in your relationship? Also a dominant should have no need at all to reinforce their control with SM. All adds to the fun for me, but I don't see it as necessary.
Likewise there are plenty of SM relationships out there without power exchange.
We all have our own take on these matters and I don't want to split hairs. However, I can't agree that D/s does not invariably involve an element of SM. Submission involves accepting restrictions on one's freedom. However consensual the relationship, such restrictions are normally seen as punitive. In other words, both parties are enjoying a form of suffering .
I'm not so sure whether it is possible for people to engage in SM without some degree of temporary D/s either. Yes, a masochist can self harm, but even in the most egalitarian SM double act, a sadist is likely to enjoy a sense of power in inflicting pain and the masochist a sense of submission in allowing him/her to do so.
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