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| Sun 18 Mar 07, 7:08 AM felis_intorqueo 6 yrs |
Not apartments, people. I saw this referred to as a kind of poly arrangement. The way I imagine it is with the submissive at the centre, owned/played with/looked after/whatever by a group of Dominants who don't necessarily even know each other, but have consented to the idea. If that's right, does anyone have any experience of this happening? Does it work? If not, what did it mean? The human animal is a beautiful and terrible creature, capable of limitless compassion and unfathomable cruelty. | |
| 18 Mar 07, 10:16 AM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs   |
I've heard of it in the context of a Dom whose work was roughly split between London and the north somewhere (can't remember where) and had a "sub in each city". Apparently the two subs knew of each other and had met. There was trust and agreement. Unfortunately the Dom also had a THIRD sub somewhere that neither of the other two knew about and when this came to light mistrust ensued and the whole shebang fell apart. I have to admit I think polyamory relationships tend to be more "unstable" - there's just extra factors involved and extra ways things can go wrong. Toak To predict the behaviour of ordinary people in advance, you only have to assume that they will always try to escape a disagreeable situation with the smallest possible expenditure of intelligence - Friedrich Nietzsche http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/Violent-Porn/ http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/ReviseF65/ | |
| 18 Mar 07, 10:27 AM ToyGirl UK(BB), 6 yrs |
I would imagine that the 'one dom/me several subs' scenario would be more common than the 'one sub several dom/mes' purely because of demographics. tg x "Pain is just weakness leaving the body" | |
| 18 Mar 07, 10:28 AM northernwench 7 yrs |
*Ponders current two and a half happy years of 'instability'*
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| 18 Mar 07, 5:41 PM IndelibleMarker UK(E), 6 yrs   |
She's specifically talking about the multiple Doms and single sub situation. Although yes its not hugely common, the most likely place that people will have seen this sort of thing would be in a relationship between a Dom and a Domme with a sub involved as well. Or a Dom/me, alpha sub and beta sub sort of idea. Sometimes, one person cannot give enough (either in an emotional or physical sense) to keep the sub satisfied, happy and safe. In that situation, as long as there is trust and understanding I think its perfectly fine to have 2 or more Dom's watching over said sub. If for example one side can give the control but not the close support, while the other can give the close support but not the control. Tuam matrem feci, | |
| 18 Mar 07, 9:06 PM Deviant_Bitch UK(G), 6 yrs |
Without sounding like I am running down this idea. It really does just sound like a subby fantasy. I mean many subs spend years finding people never mind one lucky sub having many Dommes. Glasgow coffee club, coming to save you from the boredom of mills and boon. | |
| 18 Mar 07, 9:28 PM Mistress_Hypatia UK, 5 yrs |
It does happen - I've definitely seen at least one male sub who had two dommes. I'm in the opposite situation, being a domme with two subs. One reason why it works is because they are close friends and don't compete with each other. We're a triad, not two couples. | |
| 19 Mar 07, 12:26 AM IndelibleMarker UK(E), 6 yrs |
It's not a subby fantasy - I'm involved a situation as described. But I am also free to explore with other subs elsewhere as well to get the aspects that I need that can't be offered to me there. It's complicated, but it works, and to be honest its about using Dominance to help and support people rather than in any kind of sexual way. Tuam matrem feci, | |
| 26 Mar 07, 8:07 PM bodski UK(PR), 6 yrs |
There is much in this thread that interests me. In reference to the OP..... Kitten I do not think that what you are referring to is unachievable. Where I imagine it is difficult is in respect of actually making it happen. These things do not 'just happen' as you know. If this really is what you want then why not, but who is going to actually make it so ? Personally I find the idea of poly submission difficult and in answer to your direct question, I do not know where it works in real life (although it does seem to work for some on here, I just do not know them). I suggest that it would be more likely to work with one owner or Dom/me and multiple play partners (or to stick to your time-share analogy, renters). . Toak For the poly side, I actually disagree with your suggestiong that poly relationships are unstable, although there are not many people who can do it - so maybe this is where we disagree ? Polyamory brings with it a requirement to be very honest about the things which are often kept hidden. As in the example you give, it was the deceit which caused things to break down. . ToyGirl Dude - I just checked out your profile thinking 'nice ass'. (I hate it when that happens !) I agree with your statement here that one Dom/me many subs seems more common. I find this especially interesting when so many people think that there are more Dom/mes than subs. . Lady_in_training I think you are hot ! It may be a fantasy, but why can fantasies not become reality. That is how my life is ! . Markerman I have come to dislike the idea of polyamory being where one partner cannot satisfy all of their partner's needs. This need not be the case at all. I could have all I want from my sub (as you know, she's lovely). There is nothing deficient in our relationship (well, she can't do double headed blowjobs on her own but that is a side issue). I am polyamorous because I am, and I can be, not because there is something missing. Of course, people define poly many ways, but for me it is a lifestyle choice. I think that it is easily confused with 'not ready for monogamy yet'. . Much peace and love to all. Bod. ~O x | |
| 26 Mar 07, 8:13 PM BayeuxTapestry 7 yrs |
In my experience my poly relationships have been much more stable and happy than the monogamous ones I've been involved in. But I defer to your superior knowledge and experience. |
