Posted by Smartarse
on Sun 11 Mar 07, 12:11 PM to Smartarse's blog.
There must be a few people waking up today thinking they have made new enemies in the scene. And you'd think that recent events would make people less inclined to make enemies.
I know I've laughed and chortled as old scores got settled this weekend. But now we all know what we think of each other, perhaps it's time to bury the hatchet, let bygones be bygones and come together to protect our lifestyle.
Our friends and our enemies are all the friends we have. It's us versus the world. It's time to show compassion and understanding. There seems to be a lot of insanity about. Well, we all know we are one biscuit short of a packet or we wouldn't be here. Some people may be two biscuits short but we should still accept them nonetheless. Until kink is recognised as a sexual orientation in its own right, it is defined as a mental disorder. A disorder we all have in common.
Is it right that we are treated as an underclass, a group of people to be sneered at, poked fun at and exposed to ridicule by sleazy journalists and the media - if what we do is classified as a mental disorder? Imagine the outcry if sensational headlines were written about the autistic or those with tourettes?
I'm kinky because it's a part of who I am, not because I choose to be. I refuse to apologise for something that I can't change. I refuse to feel shame any more. However, this aspect of myself is private and only something that I need to share with my sexual partners. It doesn't affect my ability to do my job or have any bearing on my ability to be a good citizen. It is nobody's business but my own.
I'm here on IC discussing kink because I enjoy the company of people with the same 'disorder.' I enjoy the openness, the honesty and absence of shame. Is that wrong? Is that reason to be dragged through the gutter? I don't think so.
I've been saddened by the defeated attitudes of some who have posted in recent days. I've seen various forms of this defeatism but it all boils down to one thing: feeling shame. I grew up reading the rubber attire adverts in the back of the News of the World. And I'm just sick of the hypocrisy of a world where it's okay to 'expose' someone for kink on one page and profit from it on the next.
We need to turn our outrage in the direction it deserves to go - toward those that oppress and ridicule. To those that discriminate and judge, looking down on us from the moral highground while destroying lives and reputations, actions far worse than anything you'll read here.
| 11 Mar 07, 12:23 PM mrs_whipkick UK(CB), 8 yrs  |
I'll bury the hatchet in you head if you don't get on with your work mainly my website  on a more serious note though I know how far you have come to write a blog about not feeling shame any longer. i know that was something that had eaten you up for a long time before finding IC and us pervs. So I'm feeling rather proud of you right now.
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| 11 Mar 07, 12:33 PM Smartarse UK(CM), 7 yrs |
Thanks Mai, its true - the prospect of happiness far outweighs the prospect of an ignorant person judging me. The more I get to see the reality of kink the less I retain my old perceptions of the scene.
And Sunday's supposed to be a day of rest.. | |
| 11 Mar 07, 1:30 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs    |
Shame and fear are things that hold us back from becoming who we truly are and who we truly want to be, and I think your post was a very, very nice one to read indeed  "You say that my way of thinking cannot be tolerated? What of it? The man who alters his way of thinking to suit others is a fool. My way of thinking is the result of my reflections. It is part of my inner being, the way I am made." Marquis de Sade |
