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subs in chastity...what did it make you better at? (17)

This post is on the Other BDSM web board.

my experience with this was that after about 10 days your glands are so full and ticklish and sensitive that you can be gently orgasmic all night without much stimulation at all, just from licking or being slightly turned on. and obviously when you are excited you do almost anything and passionately.

Migraine headaches, the voices. Seeing things moving through my room at night. Dark shapes rising out of the desert sand. Dark moods, aliens, anal probing...

10 Mar 07, 7:23 AM
ToyGirl
UK(BB), 6 yrs

MissOralLover wrote:
I just wondered if being in a chaste mindset helped a sub to focus more on something, to perfect it.

Yes, I have found that this is the case both in sexual and in general terms. Sexually, the removal of the prospect of an orgasm allows me to concentrate fully on providing pleasure for my Domme / partner without the distractions of my own bodily responses. I have found that this has invariably led to a more enjoyable experience for her which can only be a good thing. I will always remember the feeling I had when I first brought a woman to orgasm whilst in chastity . . . for me it was more powerful and rewarding than some sexual experiences I have had and I actually needed a smoke afterwards - I kid you not

Its always easy to imagine and fantasise about taking things to extremes and natural conclusions but ever since I began experimenting with chastity I have been fascinated with the concept of being kept permenently in that state. In terms of mindest there is something unexplainably attractive to me about 'giving up' my physical pleasure so that I may serve better and all the time knowing that there will be no reward of gratification sexually. My reward and happiness will come purely from her pleasure and satisfaction

I keep on dreaming anyway . . . .

tg x

"Pain is just weakness leaving the body"

10 Mar 07, 3:42 PM
Kas_Pasha
5 yrs

I'm in chastity for Lent, so i don't know yet what the final outcome will be..

But I am finding now that the erections my Owner induces regularly are less often caused by sexual excitement (although she and her pals tease me mercilessly) and more often by each act of submission, so that an order from her, especially one that is demanding and sudden, even if entirely non sexual, will bring an erection. At the same time, each time I remind her that I submit, I get an erection..just as this affirmation of my submission is causing me to stiffen even now as I type these words...

I think it makes me easier to condition.

18 Mar 07, 11:36 AM
myface_yourseat
UK(WF), 11 yrs

MissOralLover wrote:
Just interested to know if the focus of being kept chaste brought about any real improvements in your sub skills... apart from general submissiveness. ie, things you already delighted in doing/giving.

eg. did you get better at generally pleasing your Dom/me in areas such as foot massage, oral worship, domestic service etc?

I have experienced chastity through wearing a cb2000 and a cb3000 and whilst these are not the most secure of devices and at times can prove very painfull to wear, the fact of being kept in chastity has had a massive effect on me. The chastity device is a constant reminder that you are owned by your Domme. The fact that the timing of any personal release i might receive is totally in the hands (no pun intended) of my owner is a constant strengthening of my submission and Her power over me. I have found that the longer I am denied orgasm the more submissive, attentive and obedient i become. Perhaps this is also because orgasm denial keeps me permanently "on heat". As such my desire to serve is enhanced as is my willingness to perform the more "humiliating" aspects of personal service (e.g. toilet service, oral service / facesitting during monthly cycle, oral foot service however sweaty & smelly, etc.). Now this is not to say that i am disobedient when not in chastity, its just that my submission is significantly enhanced when i am kept that way. I can only imagine how i would feel if i was in a permanent Mistress / slave relationship where i was required to wear a very secure locking device such as a "Tollyboy" style belt or a "Lori's" type locking chastity tube on a permanent basis with any orgasm being entirely under the control of my Mistress.

18 Mar 07, 4:21 PM
von_Doom
5 yrs

I've recently gone for two weeks without a belt. It got me into an increasingly submissive and devoted frame of mind for my Mistress. It's definitely a double edged sword though. On the one hand it appeals wholeheartedly to my fantasies and focussed me completely on pleasing her to the point where she commented on my improved oral skills. On the other hand it also is incredibly distracting and can be a bit too much mentally. I didn't want to come out of the mental state once I'd seen her - I wanted to stay in the 'slave' role. I found that quite destabilising without the presence of Mistress to talk to. More thought needed before I go through that again, methinks.

18 Mar 07, 4:24 PM
encased_chaste
UK, 11 yrs

i am now an expert at using the toilet whilst seated.

18 Mar 07, 9:05 PM
Wolfeeh
UK(CF), 8 yrs

I wouldn't necessarily say it made me better at anything.

I would definitely agree with Reptile's comments though; that is my exact same experience; if they partner just puts it on, then ignores it, i get very aggressive and want it off, it's really not a positive experience...

If however they make a constant thing of it; i.e. my mistress has come to visit me dinner time in work just to drive me to a quiet location to tease me... sending dirty text messages etc... then i find it much easier to deal with and don't get aggressive.