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| 17 Apr 07, 7:17 PM hedonistah ES, 9 yrs  |
But everyone hides what they get up to when they're at work! It's probably just as difficult to say that you're in a sexless marriage or are impotent. I really can't see why you want to tell everyone about what you get up to sexually at work. Kink is more mainstream than it's ever been and people in general are more open minded than you think. It's just not the done thing to go into the minutiae of your sex life at the office. Being kinky probably isn't as special as you think.. | |
| 17 Apr 07, 7:57 PM Eustacia_Vye VE, 5 yrs  |
My vanilla friend- 'It's always the quiet ones' and then laughed. EV xx
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| 17 Apr 07, 8:15 PM houndofhades UK, 5 yrs |
I DON'T, the point i'm trying to make is that with the straight laced image i'm forced to maintain at work, it would be funny to see the look on their face if they where ever to find out.... I have no intention of telling them, it's nothing to with them - however the reaction if i was to would be intersting to watch. if you love it, tie it up and spank it.... | |
| 17 Apr 07, 8:36 PM Owthatstings 5 yrs |
I once showed someone my website (www.mikespankingbooth.co.uk) to someone at a company I was doing some freelance work at, and he then showed everyone. Whenever I went there to fix their systems he used to say, 'hi Mike me old spanker..' I would say something like .. having a spanking good time? I never experienced any negativity from it. Everyone either chuckled or was genuinely fascinated. After all, it's not as if I'm a paedophile, and if anyone asks me I always admit it. I think it's much better to be open and honest, as far as possible, because people tend to respect you if you are. | |
| 17 Apr 07, 10:26 PM hedonistah ES, 9 yrs |
Work is work, home is home. Everyone acts at work. At least most people. I love the contrast with how work people see me and that they would never guess in a million years that I'm a nymphomaniac painslut. Vive la difference!!
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| 18 Apr 07, 12:23 AM frapperia UK, 5 yrs |
Thanks to my boss adding me on Facebook, he, and any of my work colleagues who are also on Facebook, now know I'm kinky after I joined the 'Facebook BDSM' group. Luckily my boss is literally a year older than me, and the people in the small company I work for are gay, bi (god knows what my boss is, he flirts with everyone and his quite obvious horniness is getting on my nerves a little - I'm hoping he doesn't want to hit on me as I'm definitely not into tapping that!) or accepting of other people's lifestyles and sexual conduct choices. There is actually an article that IndelibleMarker put up in BDSM Activism written by me which was published in my uni mag recently about finding myself as a kinky woman as part of our 'women's issue', so most of my university know. Oops. Haha. Oh well, they'll all have forgotten about it by the end of the year. Did lead to some interesting discussions with friends, though. Most of them seemed to think it was 'really funny'. I did keep it lighthearted, but I was making a serious point about it being okay to be kinky! I will never tell my parents. I don't see why I should. I'm not a lifestyler, and for me kink is, although part of me, something I choose to indulge in in the bedroom/house and nowhere else (apart from fetish clubs, obviously!). If I was going to set up home as a Domme with a houseful of slaves I would probably have to explain to my parents, but since I have no plans to indulge my kink anywhere other than in private settings, they have no need to know about my penchant for puppy play and cuffs. I have a drawer full of things at uni that I am going to have to find somewhere safe for when I move back home this summer, actually. Edited 18 Apr 07, 12:40 AM by frapperia | |
| 18 Apr 07, 5:17 PM skadii UK(W), 5 yrs |
I agree - I have no intention of telling people at work what I do for fun, any more than I want to know that they were taken up the jacksy behind wetherspoons last Friday or whatever.... but it is frustrating that if it came to light I would probably be forced out of my job, whereas in that example they'd probably all have a good ol' laugh about how drunk X got and that would be it. | |
| 18 Apr 07, 5:22 PM BoundAndGaggedMan 5 yrs |
I once told my closest frind that I had been to a fetish party. No detail, just that I had gone to "see what they are like". After his initial reaction, I didnt tell him any more info. I myself would only tell the people I know are open minded enough to take the news. Maybe it's a male thing, but news like that can sometimes change the dynamic of friendships. | |
| 18 Apr 07, 11:30 PM luckylock UK, 5 yrs |
Thanks everyone for their views. I never had any intention of shouting from the rooftops but was simply saying I wanted to tell someone how happy this has made me recently. I am normally quite open with some friends so it was an extension of that. I would never tell work colleagues details about my private life and agree with others that they wouldn't be interested and if they were it none of their business. However at last I have told a friend a little about this and was pleasantly surprised by the reaction. i found I could gauge her reaction from very little information and as it was generally positive i shared a little more but not details. ironically I had the impression from her her husband would like to dominate her but she's not interested. i tried to open her eyes to how fun and exciting it is and she left saying maybe she'd try it one day so who knows. | |
| 19 Apr 07, 9:33 AM Dollface UK, 6 yrs  |
Some of my friends know, but they tend to be friends I met in university, as opposed to friends I've known since I was knee-high to a grasshopper. That said, I think they've got an inkling. Generally, the reaction was positive, ranging from nonchalance to slight curiosity. |
