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Posted by dizziblonde
on Wed 24 Jan 07, 8:53 PM to dizziblonde's blog.
Tonight i got the shock of my life...
I have been to asda to get some last minute bits for my hols, whilst i was there i saw an old friend of mine, Julie and i have known each other for about 20 years.
She lived a few doors away from me as i was growing up, she is about 13 yrs older than me, but we have always been friends, i was there when her youngest son was born and he is 17 now, i was there when her husband left her when their child was just 5 days old.
Julie saved me from myself all those years ago, i was the fat kid at school the one everyone bullied because i was shy, quiet and over weight she was the bestest friend i could have ever had.
When i turned 23 i started seing someone called David, he was 5 yrs younger than me, all he and Julie kept saying was as long as we where in love age didnt matter and i was totally in love, or at least i was until she started seing him behind my back, i should have never fallen out with her but i did and well we have hardly spoken to each other for a few years now, we are polite when we see each other i have been to her house a few times, i went to both her parents funerals and her sisters but our friendship was never the same after that.
So tonight in asda i bumped into her and i could have cried, she looked so poorly, I had heard from other friends that 12 months ago she was given the last rights by the priest as she was dying from alcohol abuse, i went to see her in intensive care but it was family only, i rang theem everyday worried about her but after 4 months in hospital she seemed to be on the mend, she was getting help for her drinking and was doing well.
When i saw her tonight she looked about 70, her hair what little she had was lank and greasy, her face had a big scar running across her cheek from her nose to her ear, she was always a bonny looking girl probably about a size 14/16 tonight she probably weighed no more than 6 stone, she hadnt a tooth in her head but it was the colour of her that upset me more, she was yellow bright yellow.
We stopped and had a chat for a few minutes, she told me that because of her drinking both of her sons have turned their backs on her and she needs a liver trasplant but she had to give up the drink .. and she was trying, i kinda glanced over her trolley, not nosying or anything and there under her bread was a couple of bottles of alcohol, i didnt say anything i couldnt we spent a few more minutes chatting about stuff then we went our seperate ways.
i have been quite upset tonight and i cried, it was such a shock seing her like that, she was always such a proud woman, always imaculatly dressed, always bright and bubbly, The sad thing is both her parents and sister died through alcohol abuse, her sister was 3 years older than me and left a 13 year old and a 2 year old.
I hope she get the help she needs i really do, i want to help her but i know i cant, i am not strong enough, she has no friends anymore, everyone has turned their backs on her, even her own children and family .. but what can i do?
| 24 Jan 07, 8:59 PM Moonbeam 7 yrs |
she has no friends anymore, everyone has turned their backs on her, even her own children and family .. but what can i do?
[/quote] The harsh but realistic answer dizzi is nothing. you cant do anything, she has too. its natural you want to help because its in your nature but this time the help you can give is by doing nothing. gilly x
You never really get to know someone until you let them know who you are. |
| 24 Jan 07, 9:10 PM madamdv8 UK, 10 yrs  |
dizzi.sounds just like my best friend,she drank 9 litres of cider a day,i knew this girl for only 18mths,she was abbusive,loud,nasty,when she was drunk which was 24/7 but to me she would had died for.she died last year,i spoke to her an hour before her death i tried everything for her even dragging her to the gp myself but her friend was the bottle nothing i said made any different,but what hurt me the most was she left a 3 yr old behind.all you can do hun is hope she does get help and very soon no matter what u advice her to do wont help.its only her what can do that hun. J |
| 24 Jan 07, 9:43 PM domspaintoy UK(YO), 6 yrs |
Alcohol is one of this countries biggest killers. People think its drugs, heroin, cocaine, ecstasy etc, but it isnt, alcohol is cheap, easy accessible and even children can buy it. Its almost a silent killer because it is so easy to obtain, its almost acceptable to get pie-eyed and legless, funny almost in some instances, until you see that poor sod lying in a pool of vomit or worse, blood because someone has decided in their drunken violent stupor to beat them senseless. im truely sorry for your friend dizzi, for some people alcohol saves them from their worst nightmares for others it is their worst nightmare, i hope she gets the help she needs. XX |
| 25 Jan 07, 9:17 AM Heavenly 7 yrs |
You just described my late sister to a tee dizzi.. We tried to help her for 10 years in everyway possible. It is a devestating way to watch someone you love die, I hope your friend wakes up to herself before it is too late T x |
