Posted by feitheachd on Sat 13 Jan 07, 4:01 PM to feitheachd's blog.
Recently, there was an interesting thread on here about self-esteem and specifically about how a dominant can encourage/nurture it in their submissive.
Thinking about it made me realise just how much the mere embracing of my submissive nature has helped my general self-confidence. It's not that I was unsure of myself before, but my resistance to properly examining my nature created a distraction which led to an undercurrent of uncertainty and a low level feeling of dissatisfaction.
Allowing myself to grasp the nettle has given me clarity and focus and has brought into the nurturing light emotions, desires and drives that were being stifled.
But it's not just that awareness that boosts self esteem, there is something fundamental about the very trait of submissiveness that is, at least for me, undoubtedly life enhancing.
It may have taken me a while to appreciate the fact, but I now know that I am incredibly fortunate to have been wired the way I am, and I'm going to make the most of it.
| “A man's true delight is to do the things he was made for.” - Marcus Aurelius - |
| “The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates - |
Edited Sat 13 Jan 07, 4:02 PM by feitheachd
| 13 Jan 07, 4:21 PM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs   |
Well said and this girl couldnt agree with you more. Good luck with everything  | |
| 13 Jan 07, 9:11 PM empathic_metamorph UK(DN), 5 yrs |
My self esteem was terribly low before i released my inner submissive but really improved as i began to grow in the bdsm community. Then i met Master Calic to whom i recently became formally collared. He is a very intelligent man, a creature without compare, so i was lucky anyway. But He began to work with me, slowly and steadily and now i have a much better sense of my value. i can now be naked in public, dress as i wish, i have lost weight, changed my hair and on and on it goes. He also now allows me to work with Him in His business which makes my soul soar as the job He has given me gives me such a buzz and i love every minute of my life now. This has all been due the the nuturing i have received from my Master. A good Dominant/Master can be the making of a submissive. He actually opened the doors that led me through the Internal Enslavement process. All He did was stand by and keep me safe while i transformed into the slave i am today. Being my authentic self has brought me such happiness. slave tsina | |
| 14 Jan 07, 9:02 AM Miss_Namio UK(DT), 5 yrs |
A sense of self-worth, a sense of belonging, of being comfortable within one's own skin...all can be realised when we are outwardly true to our inner psyches at long last. For someone who longs to submit, to give that submission to the right person can finally let the soul soar.... As someone I know rather well once wrote: "to be owned by my Mistress is truly to be free".... Be good! www.missnamio.moonfruit.com | |
| 14 Jan 07, 6:13 PM cerrynn1 UK, 10 yrs |
It is wonderful, and it does happen. Be persistent, be patient, keep your standards high-but-realistic, and if you decide it is what you truly want eventually you *will* find a Dom who offers you love and support. Although they are often not the ones you notice first, they *are* out there. Best wishes, cerrynn |
