Posted by pinkreindeer
on Tue 2 Jan 07, 3:02 PM to pinkreindeer's blog.
Its been ages since I lasted posted....I've been attempting to work up enough of an interest to post but as BDSM has pretty much vanished from our house since the arrival of little H (who is now just over five months old!) I feel a bit fraudulent posting on here at all.
Not a great deal has been happening round here that isn't H related...although I have started an Open University degree...History. F and I have been having a bit of a hard time of it though, he's had some anger and jealousy things going on, but it does seem as though that's turned a bit of a corner....I can't say I was exactly being helpful.
Anyway, oh gods I can't believe I'm about to write this....we've only had sex three times since H was born...not because I haven't felt like it or have been too tired either! F's low sex drive strikes again....although I think I may have actually re-virginised...
Basically, I'm trying to shelve sex and everything sex related for a while as it's just annoying me....
Have lost loooooots of weight though...actually life would be wonderful if it wasn't for the sex thing!
Pinkxxx
| 2 Jan 07, 3:16 PM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs   |
Ahh don't be daft, we still want to know that yer ok and things are going well.
Furry on the outside, Fluffy on the inside. | |
| 2 Jan 07, 5:05 PM fen_fatale UK(CB), 8 yrs |
Build in a sex ban; for a few weeks or a sensible amount of time <easier for you> and just reintroduce intimacy in hugs and cuddles and kissing but on the understanding that sex is not permitted. Once you get rid of the pressure that sex is expected as a result of kissing and affection then it will help to rebuild that bond, concentrate on being a loving couple again and try to find that connection as two people, without it being a fuckfest! Eventually the increased intimacy, the bond rebuilding and the kisses and cuddles should naturally flow back into a desire to want to have sex together! but even if you get that desire back fairly soon, try not to give into it until after the ban period is up, you need to feel an element of desperation yourself too. It is going to be hard for him to go without it for a while, but i am sure he will be understanding if he knows it is working back towards the goal of sex because you want to, rather than it being a chore of duty! Its perfectly natural to feel like this after having a baby, but it does need some work to get it back, it isn't something that can be left without. | |
| 2 Jan 07, 5:07 PM Bbdspls UK, 7 yrs |
Lol! It's good to hear from you after so long! & I know exactly what you mean about the "fraudulent" comment, I was only writing the other day about by submission being lost in action! Guess we coould always join the leagues of lovely ladies on iVillage & swap recipes & knitting patterns!
Look after yourselves, that's more important anyway
You may be only one person in the world, but you may be the world to one person | |
| 3 Jan 07, 2:11 PM pinkreindeer UK(L), 7 yrs |
Thanks Fen....but it's F's lack of sex drive that's the problem! It's good to know that I'm not totally forgotten anyway! Pinkxxx A pessimist is a man who thinks all women are bad. |
pls x