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on Tue 21 Nov 06, 5:11 PM to MarkVarley's blog.
We are all born with zero experience and measures of talent in various things. Everything we do happens for a first time sometime, we do it often and we get better, we have talent we get much better faster.
My previous skills with a knife for example were based around terminal intentions with fairly detailed anatomical knowledge and experience. My kinky skills with a knife draw on the previous with a heavy dose of common sense, some supplimented anatomical knowledge and more experience, this means I'm rather good at it but I had to learn, someone was my first kinky knifeplay recipient and that someone was exposing herself to someone with little experience. we all have a first time.
As for rope, I've been tying people up since I was 16ish, so I have loads of experience, but there was once a first time, it was still me back then and no less valid as a person to play with. I now teach people how to tie people up and I strongly encourage them to just do it, 'here are the safety factors, now just have a go'. I'm a big believer in common sense, with a good dose of common sense anyone could and should have a go at anything.
Use your common sense to research your subject, use your common sense to learn some basics, use your common sense to understand the risk and safety factors and likely outcomes, then just try it, if it works, great, you learn alot. If something goes wrong it won't go very wrong because of your common-sense preperation and you will learn alot for next time.
We make mistakes, we have accidents, I know of one rope expert who cause some damage that took about 8 weeks to heal, this person had been roping for many years, it happens. use your common sense to minimise the chances and minimise the damage when it does happen.
Do it, try it, love it, do it some more.
Mark - Twisted Photography.co.uk - Twisted Photography IC Profile
"You have the right to remain Violent"
Edited Tue 21 Nov 06, 5:13 PM by MarkVarley
| 21 Nov 06, 9:44 PM merrynb99 UK(SL), 6 yrs |
I like your thinking very much. I was talking to someone last night and found myself saying "you can only talk so much, exploring using words can only take you so far in terms of mutual understanding, before you have to get out there and just DO it."
Of course, that sounded just like a perverted invitation to play Freud would've loved it ... "You have to really be free to truly choose connection." (Naomi Wolf) |
