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| alexandraa |
I had thought yesterday. Mmmm I know, a thought on a Saturday, that's a bit much isn't it? As much as I am the masochist, as much as I enjoy a good thrashing as part of my sex, I'm not into sadism and masochism for its own sake. I'm a hedonist. My hedonistic delight in SM will take me a long way but ultimately its all about sexual pleasure for me. I'm purely and simply a hedonist who loves control and SM all within sexual boundaries.
Don't get me wrong, I've explored as I see many explore on here. I've written about, been as mentally committed to being a “slave” as any other might wish to be and I've lived that role too. I've been there done that and got the total power exchange T shirt. I've entered the BDSM world, played the game and experienced a great deal of things mentally and physically.
Sometimes I wonder at what we do and say to justify our sexuality. Who cares after all? What does it matter? Away with your long explanations, justifications, prevarications, bending of words and meanings. Who gives a fuck after all? Is it not just about sex? Oh be truthful. For if it is not just about sex then why do you do what you do? To educate your minds? Or maybe just to take physical exercise. Lord knows it's a pleasant way to tone your body. Why do you make your rules and games? Why do you dress up and role play? Why do you pretend to submit/dominate? What is the reason for your games?
It's window dressing as I see it. The whole of the hand to the heart D/s is so fucking meaningful and special. When you break it down it's about sex is all. Oh for sure it can be special sex, deep and meaningful sex. Power exchange and SM can bring an intensity I've rarely found in straight sex, a mental connection you don't get anywhere else. But ultimately it's about sex.
Why so cynical today? I'm in a mood I think. For sex as it happens Haha! And that's what makes me angry with this site on occasion, the base and pleasant fact that sex is what motivates us, is so often completely glossed over. We're animals and sex is our motivation. End of story. No higher intellectual gain, no spiritual fantasy depth of feeling. Just fucking. We seek, as I see it, an intensity and an extreme form of fucking, but its fucking none the less, whether we achieve it through power exchange or SM play or both, our enjoyment is still about sexual intercourse.
Good and excellent fucking it may well be. Intense fucking, painful pleasure ridden harsh and violent fucking, but fucking is what it is all about surely? And if it isn't, if you do indeed seek some other plane then your motivation is outside of my understanding. But I don't care. Do what you will, fuck or don't fuck. Beat or be beaten or don't bother with that either. But if you aren't sexually motivated in your world of BDSM then I don't understand why you'd do any of this.
It irritates me that so many people feel the need to justify their sexuality, to explain their insecurities, needs and desires. Just fucking get on with it. Who after all gives a monkey's about what your chosen bedroom antics are so long as your partner gets joy from that. Isn't that what we argue for in our defence of all things BDSM? That we do as we choose so long as we operate within consent?
OK, OK so I'm a very sexually motivated creature. Simple in my thoughts and desires. Give it to me hard, give it to me fast, give it to me with pain and aggression, certainty, surety and confidence. Or don't give it to me at all.
A hand in my hair forcing tears from my eyes. A cock hard, rampant and commanding. My body taken and controlled by a forceful, decisive man. SM play as the gravy that covers and wraps around us. Control, always control, as the spice that makes it special.
But that's really as simple as it is. Sex is my BDSM driver and the relationship between me and my chosen partner is what sustains my passion and desires. Not my insecurities or weaknesses, strengths or intelligence. All these things add flavour and variety. They make it different with each and every different partner you may choose.
But the sheer and simple truth is, it's all about sex.
Edited Sun 29 Oct 06, 9:50 AM by alexandraa
| 29 Oct 06, 9:49 AM DillyTante UK, 6 yrs |
Wholehearted agreement here. Thank you alex. Dilly | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 10:15 AM helena_helena UK, 6 yrs |
Yep! ~ You say I'm a bitch like it's a bad thing ~ | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 10:49 AM Chastiser UK, 12 yrs |
nope! Mike
Let Me unchain your mind and your sexuality will follow. | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:03 AM ripecherry UK, 6 yrs  |
Not always! Sometimes I do crave for that heavy flogging on my shoulder blades,in order to achieve that mental state which is rarely sexual.It is that flying /floaty feeling ,which is obviously better that bad sex.
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| 29 Oct 06, 11:06 AM alexandraa UK(NW), 8 yrs |
So what motivates your relationship then?
Be careful what you wish for | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:08 AM alexandraa UK(NW), 8 yrs |
And when you've felt that floaty feeling does your body not crave for sex too? Is your cunt not wet and your gut aching for that certain feeling only sex can give?
Be careful what you wish for | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:15 AM ripecherry UK, 6 yrs |
It surely does. But as mentioned above,I would rather live with this than try to have mediocre(sp) sex. Edited 29 Oct 06, 11:17 AM by ripecherry | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:21 AM Chastiser UK, 12 yrs |
Like most relationships there is and will always be a sexual element, but, it isnt the be all and end all of it. as i live this 24/7 there are many more elements to life than just sex. sure, if one looks at the base urges of humankind, as with any animal, procreation tends to be very high on the instinctual urge list. however, you must remember that there are other elements to submission than just being the receptical of my sperm. you have to remember the element of service and the feeling of wellbeing when the criteria of such are met. there are the elements of security and safety, and of course guidance too. i guess for those that are in this more part time, where meetings are occasional and due to this, intense, then the sexual element must of course be higher on the list of things required. Mike
Let Me unchain your mind and your sexuality will follow. Edited 29 Oct 06, 11:22 AM by Chastiser | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:27 AM alexandraa UK(NW), 8 yrs |
Yes and yes. Although I've never thought about being the receptical of your sperm I have to say. But I agree with your points and those are what makes the relationship sustainable and long term. I'd say sex is the driver and the wider/deeper relationship the cement.
Be careful what you wish for | ||
| 29 Oct 06, 11:29 AM alexandraa UK(NW), 8 yrs |
I'd not be happy to accept mediocre sex as an alternative but then equally I'm not keen on SM without mindblowing sex.... Bit chicken and egg really I guess. Be careful what you wish for Edited 29 Oct 06, 11:31 AM by alexandraa |
