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| 17 Oct 06, 9:31 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs   |
Rejection is not the same as loss. Loads of replies talk of their feelings after a loss in the same terms ; ie , it has a profound and sometimes permanent effect on your life. Rejection doesn't matter in the overall scheme of things, - although it helps to develop enough confidence that you dont feel reduced in self-worth. Yes, it's "Bum & two fingers, matey", then move swiftly on Escaped from the parallel universe | ||
| 17 Oct 06, 11:21 PM gimpneil UK(DN), 7 yrs |
I'd love to think I'm mature about all this but I handle rejection pretty badly I think, I kind of take that as a statement by all women and retreat away from social contact for a while. | ||
| 17 Oct 06, 11:53 PM Bluefish 7 yrs |
Shockingly badly. I rant, rave, sulk, drink and smoke too much, and generally act like a wanker. Fortunately, it doesn't happen often. You don't get the chance to reject me, because I don't make social overtures to people first.
Actually, that might be *why* I take it so badly.. I so rarely put myself in a position where I might be rejected, that every time it happens it is a new, vile, experience. | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 12:02 AM bootssub UK(G), 7 yrs |
Personally. Rejection to me is like social exclusion. A barrier or a wall created to feel as if I am not welcome whether is from a person, a group, a community, etc and with no one to talk to or turn to for any help and support. It can be heart breaking, psychologically painful, feeling hurt and can create intense loneliness, loss of self confidence and negative emotions. The only way to overcome this problem is to accept help and support from friends, etc who are willing to help. As help is not available, overcoming rejection can be very depressingly difficult. have fun! Edited 18 Oct 06, 12:23 AM by bootssub | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 12:02 AM Romola UK, 7 yrs |
I think most people handle it fine if it's reasonably open and straightforward, like 'How would you feel about seeing a film or having a meal some time?' 'Well, I would be fine to do that as friends but don't feel that it would work if we went as a couple.' What pisses reasonable people off is prevarication, cowardice and having it both ways. Going out with someone, sleeping with them, but not 'going out' with them. Ending a relationship by provoking arguments. Going cold on someone suddenly. All forms of rejection guaranteed to make the most rational person into a red-eyed lunatic bunny boiler. A film called 'Kate Beckinsale jumps off some buildings in a leather corset' consisting of just that for 90 minutes would have had a better plot, more wit and better dialogue than 'Underworld'. Even if all she said was 'umf!' when she landed. LNC: you're either in, or you're a cunt. | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 12:03 AM fluffy_welsh_angel UK(DN), 6 yrs |
I have felt as if i was going to die once, i trully thought I could not live with out this person. This went on for a long time. i have only now allowed myself to start to have feelings for someone, and he appears to have disappeared. so i guess i can say that I am feeling a little rejected at the moment. Athough it is no where near as painful as before, it sure does sting a little It is now that i start to think that it is for easier if i dont let anyone in again --------------------------------------------------- -------- | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 12:05 AM fluffy_welsh_angel UK(DN), 6 yrs |
i'm glad its not just me that thinks this! --------------------------------------------------- -------- | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 1:26 AM Romola UK, 7 yrs |
A film called 'Kate Beckinsale jumps off some buildings in a leather corset' consisting of just that for 90 minutes would have had a better plot, more wit and better dialogue than 'Underworld'. Even if all she said was 'umf!' when she landed. LNC: you're either in, or you're a cunt. | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 1:39 AM fluffy_welsh_angel UK(DN), 6 yrs |
i'm kinda there at the moment. Not saying I have gone bunny boiler, not my a long shot, but in the what the hell is going on place.
It really frustrates me when you think everything is going really well then you get shat on from a great height --------------------------------------------------- -------- | ||
| 18 Oct 06, 1:42 AM Madam_Ice UK, 6 yrs |
It really frustrates me when you think everything is going really well then you get shat on from a great height 
[/quote]I know that feeling all too well now I just enjoy my life and have fun although I do get lonely but I can pick and choose who I say no to now and normally do it before the other person has chance You can still be lonely even in a room full of people
18 Oct 06, 1:42 AM |
