NemDomme Night (5)

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Posted by MisterBear on Wed 4 Oct 06, 10:50 PM

Now the FemDomme nights at Nemesis are designed for subs and Dommes to get together, with the emphasis being on getting new subs along to get some experience and meet people and hopefully become more confident and gain more understanding about this lifestyle. However I'm not new, although I still have a lot to understand and more confidence to gain. But my reasons for attending were, in some cases, different to those who were new. Also as I knew some of the people there then it was probably much easier for me to attend and in some ways my experience concerning that part of the night was different to those new attendees.

My reasons for going. Well Sweetiejar is a friend and I wanted to help support her and the night. However that alone wouldn't be reason to go. The main reason is that I'm a switch, but have had little chance to actually switch and have spent the past year Topping. So this night gave me the freedom to be in a situation that would make it easier for me to switch into a bottoming role. I tend to find it hard to switch when being in one role too long and I'm finding it easier to be a Top than bottom.

Anyway, I turned up about 9:15 and there were already quite a few people there and so it seemed to be getting off to a good start. I was greeted by various friends, including a quick greeting from Sweetie. It was quick because she was spending her time on those who needed it and as I knew the venue and some of the people I could take care of myself.

So after greeting some friends, I went to get a drink and mingled a bit. The conversation was nice and relaxed and anyone passing by who looked a bit lost was asked to join us. Some people were already playing and I don't think there was a point where no one was playing. However it was a little quiet but this meant that there was plenty of equipment to choose from and the private rooms weren't always booked up. Still there could have been another dozen people and the night would have still been calm and relaxed.

Now I was quite happy to spend the night socialising, especially as I was getting to know new people and catching up with friends who I don't see too often or could do with getting to know better. And I have to say I wasn't sure if my mind was in a playing mood, as it tends to be a bit unsure about such things. However Blonde turned up late and as I'd spoken to her before about playing, my mind seemed happy to go along with the idea and so we did play. I was the blindfolded one travelling around the club on the bench. And I found out I apparently have a nice arse, which is odd because it's hairy, but hey I don't have to look at it.

Well I definitely enjoyed our session, I won't go into details about it though as only some kind of pervert would want to know such things. It's been over a year since I last played as a sub and so I've forgotten how it feels. I have an idea about what's stingy and what's thuddy but beyond that not much else. So when we played it was a chance to remind myself about a few things. I definitely wriggle a hell of a lot more than I thought I did, or maybe people just wriggle more as they get older. And I thought I could handle the pain levels better than I did, but then I am out of practice. But I have to say that Blonde read me very well and the pain never got to be more than I could handle. So excellent job and thank you.

So after a bit of wind down time after the play, I went for a wander while Blonde went to play with someone else. I spent most of my time thinking, or trying to think. I was looking for answers but couldn't quite figure out what the questions were. If this was the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy then Deep thought would be telling me, after millions of years, that the answer to life the universe and everything wasn't that important at the moment and to come back later. I could just feel the thoughts floating gently round my head with no urgency and they weren't going to let me grasp them.

There was one question that my mind managed to come up with and that was “What was missing?” Not from the play itself though, that was great, and was a bit more than I expected. But I think there has always been something kind of missing from a lot of my subbie experiences and I've never been quite able to figure out what it is. One thought that has occurred to me is that I might be looking for a level of play that takes time to develop and so not having spent long enough playing with someone I haven't reached that level. But who knows? Not me at least not now. Still it's got me thinking and trying to learn more about myself, which is always a good thing and I hope that others left that night having discovered something new about themselves or what they want from this life.

I got to spend a bit more time with Blonde before the worst part of the night came and that was the leaving. Dashing round trying to say good bye to everyone and then heading out into the rain to head home, and it was chucking it down most of the way home as well.

I definitely hope that Sweetie continues to organise the nights as I'd like to attend future night and hopefully develop my submissive side more or at least find a few answers. One thing I think that would be good for the night as well would be to encourage new Dommes along to help them learn whatever they can, as I've seen a few posts asking how to learn to Domme. And I'm sure that myself or a few others could be persuaded to donate their minds and bodies for educational purposes. Anyway, I had a great time and I hope everyone else did too.

Replies

4 Oct 06, 11:28 PM
heradoringpuppy
UK(WF), 3 yrs
Well said mate, always good to see you.
Gold
" Stay or forever go, Play or you'll never know" (Royksopp 2005)

5 Oct 06, 7:34 AM
x_pixie_x
UK, 3 yrs
Since when were hairy arses nasty?! Pfft!
Nice write up. Food for thought about the Dommes, though we have actually had a few beginners come along already. Maybe an outward promotion would be good.
When a pixie does 'bad' things.... it's called showing affection!!!

5 Oct 06, 8:28 AM
MisterBear
UK(WA), 5 yrs

x_pixie_x wrote:
Since when were hairy arses nasty?! Pfft!
I didnt say nasty. Just I'm not one for hairy arses, especially not on women. Might have to start a thread to see if hairy arses are appreciated.
Evanescence, Bad Taste Bears, Liverpool Munch, is back. It's here as well LM

11 Oct 06, 11:12 PM
blonde
UK, 5 yrs
Exactly WHAT........ would you like?????????????????????
Pray tell

12 Oct 06, 5:32 PM
MisterBear
UK(WA), 5 yrs

blonde wrote:
Exactly WHAT........ would you like?????????????????????
Pray tell
If I knew what I wanted I'd be a happier Bear. £80,000 would be nice.
Evanescence, Bad Taste Bears, Liverpool Munch, is back. It's here as well LM


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