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Posted by ThedaVamp on Tue 3 Oct 06, 2:24 PM to ThedaVamp's blog.
Maybe it's because I'm a Taurean who takes an eon in making her mind up on people, but I'm constantly surprised at the amount of people (in the vanilla world and the fet one) whom after meeting someone for a single date, seem to think 'this is the one!!!' and tell all their mates that they've found the perfect person.
I can understand the screeching from the rooftops with happiness, honestly guv I can, I aint that cynical LOL but so quickly?
I've been thinking on this quite a bit of late as I have quite a few mates who are getting married, settling down etc with people who are unsuitable, because my friends seem to have this urge to 'settle' for someone as soon as possible because they're either lonely, want a baby, feel the pressure of other friend's/family in relationships or whatever reason they can think of, that at the end of the day has nothing to do with knowing someone intimately, deeply and spending more than a couple of weekends in each others company, feeling actual love for the person not just infatuation.
They seem to have met "The One" at least 3 times in the last year and I can't keep track of it, nevermind their rollercoastering emotions as they leap from one relationship to the next.
Maybe I just got too used to being single or maybe I'm an old fashioned sort of girl?
| 3 Oct 06, 2:32 PM elfling 6 yrs  |
Naaaa you're just a cold-hearted psychopath.....But don't worry Theda, your secrets safe with me Porno Baby Yeah! | |
| 3 Oct 06, 2:37 PM ThedaVamp UK, 6 yrs |
I told you never to mention my bedtime Ovaltine habits!!!
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| 3 Oct 06, 2:47 PM CookieMonster UK, 6 yrs  |
I'm a man but in the past ive fallen in love fast and slow, as I get older it tends to be slower as I dont want to get burnt as well as greater self controll. But I know I do fall. For your friends is this a biological reboot to their teens or have they not been in love before?
Oh and your not supposed to be a bitter and twisted cynic till your in your 40's. | |
| 3 Oct 06, 3:01 PM Rosalee UK, 7 yrs |
I find the ability of some people to be apparently head over heels in love with someone for all of five minutes until the next one comes along quite bemusing too. They seem to be searching for something but never quite finding it. I should add that I'm searching too but, after making a few mistakes, have come to realise that it's better to be single and still searching than to settle for someone who's not right out of desperation, loneliness or some need to fit in.
http://www.fiawol.demon.co.uk/FAC/ Edited 3 Oct 06, 3:04 PM by Rosalee | |
| 3 Oct 06, 3:18 PM CookieMonster UK, 6 yrs |
If thats what Theda meant I find that quite creepy and will have to cancel the pipe and slippers Xmas presents for the OP.
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| 3 Oct 06, 3:19 PM condemned UK(M), 11 yrs |
Well you tend to find on the first few dates everyone is on their best behaviour and still has their guard up. We can be blown away by someones looks,charm and humour pretty quickly but it has to be sustainable. After a while when the defences come down and we get more relaxed people's quirks and weaknesses come through and things get a little more realistic. But we are all human[i think,lol]and perfection only exists in those silly magazines and films.We have to take the rough with the smooth and if it's more smooth than rough,hey it has a chance. But yes people do settle and do rush in too fast sometimes hence the high divorce rate. | |
| 3 Oct 06, 3:32 PM DK1369 UK(M), 9 yrs |
I think that has more to do with committment being more meaningless these days. I think if a committment is made it should be stuck with, to an extent, it's naive to think a relationship is all up's. I also think there is a tendency to be blinkered, to not listen to the warning bells and live on hope alone. Having an other persons perspective is wise, listening to it is even wiser. See good and evil as the same: both are merely God's play. ( Vivekananda) | |
| 3 Oct 06, 3:49 PM FallenAngel UK, 9 yrs |
Here! Here!
Know your Body - Know your Mind - Know your Substance - Know your Source. | |
| 3 Oct 06, 4:05 PM melita UK(ST), 8 yrs |
Yes it can. sweetness i can do...provoke me i am likely to sting | |
| 3 Oct 06, 4:31 PM ScarletPimpernel UK(HA), 7 yrs |
I have noticed that myself when some newbee's have set foot on IC for a small amount of time and then all of a sudden they are taken by someone (HE/SHE)I would have thought that it would have been better for them to spend the time getting to know people before rushing into something that they are unsure of?
~ I have nothing against women but I think you should always own a few ~ SP Edited 3 Oct 06, 7:23 PM by ScarletPimpernel |
