Should a mentor punish? (29)

However, it is what is discussed and agreed upon by the two people involved that is important, and if punishments are part of it then fair dos.

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Personally, I'd agree with what seems like the majority view on this topic. Mentor and Master are usually 2 completely different roles, unless the primary dynamic is that of Master/sub, (in which case "mentoring" can be part of that, but not vice-versa). Your Dom may mentor you, but your Mentor shouldn't be Domming you.

Being a Mentor is a platonic role that requires a lot of trust, and is there for advice and guidance, not for play.

Unfortunately, some Doms may use the pretext of being a Mentor, as an excuse for playing with a naive and vulnerable newbie sub, but without the commitment of an acknowledged Master/sub responsibility. (I'm not saying that is necessarily the case here). I think introducing play into a Mentor/mentoree relationship, is taking advantage of the trust necessary in that dynamic..

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Edited 2 Oct 06, 12:37 PM by MKane

Very nicely put. I agree.

Laurence

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whatever is agreed between two people is up to them even if they choose to use the word 'mentor'.

However to me a mentor is there for guidence without any kind of D/s S/m etc dynamic and so a punishment should not be happening. A sample caning perhaps so a newbie can feel what it's like maybe but not as a punishment.

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Goodness had nothing to do with it Honey

Not specifically.

So far it has only been subs that have asked for it but the principal can be extended to anyone.....

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Edited 2 Oct 06, 1:51 PM by MasterG63

Eloquently put

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"You have the right to remain Violent"

Except that in that context Mentor was in loco parentis and probably did punish Odysseus' son by beating the crap out of them...

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The reason I made a point of asking was there is often an assumption from some people that subs (or women in general) are people who need more support to function as adults than other people do.

I'm sure that doesn't apply to you though.

- Chris

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Edited 3 Oct 06, 10:00 AM by Backdooruk

With regards to punishment, that's fine if it's an agreed part of their relationship and she's happy for it to happen. After all, it's an important part of a D/s relationship and being mentored/trained to take it is invaluable.