Posted by toesuckasub
on Sat 16 Sep 06, 2:35 PM to toesuckasub's blog.
I think I often put things the wrong way when I am simply stating an opinion. I have a habit of making absolute 'i don't think people should...' type statements, when all I really mean is that 'I personally find, for myself that I would rather not...', or perhaps 'I wouldn't like someone to...' or 'wouldn't trust someone to...'
I don't know what to blame for this communication flaw. Perhaps it's something to do with being a leo...
| 16 Sep 06, 2:54 PM x_flaire_x UK(OX), 10 yrs  |
If you believe in what you're saying, then stand beside it and don't let other bully you for expressing a different opinion to theirs. <wagging finger> f x Stand before your god, bow before your king and kneel before your man - Nanny Ogg, Lords and Ladies | ||
| 16 Sep 06, 3:21 PM StanBWonderful UK(L), 6 yrs |
OK, here's Stan's quick survival guide to posting on IC. 1. Don't give them an inch. You need to scan everything you post and try to weed out anything that can be spun. 2. The tone of a thread is often not dictated by the origional post but by the first reply. If the first person to reply flames you, chances are others will follow. Walk away. 3. For the love of God don't say anything that could be interpreted as saying there's somthing wrong with IC. The flamers love to invoke the power of Tanos, so if anything you post can be spun as a dis to him, you're gonna get flame grilled! 4. Don't show weakness, if you whine you'll get torn to shreds. | ||
| 16 Sep 06, 4:30 PM Frivolity EC, 9 yrs |
I'm with flaire, Hun. You stand your ground.
frivvy.
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| 16 Sep 06, 7:12 PM SquireRaglan UK(SW), 6 yrs |
Are you quite sure that "all you really mean" is that you would rather not, or you wouldn't like someone to, or you wouldn't trust someone to?? Because, if that's "all you really mean", then it's not 'an opinion' at all. It's a fact - you are stating your personal preference as it applies to you. On the other hand, if you're expressing 'an opinion', then aren't you really saying that it's your opinion of how other people *should* behave - but that your normal presentation of that opinion doesn't go down too well, and you'd like to get into the habit of softening your presentation of your opinion. | ||
| 16 Sep 06, 9:20 PM toesuckasub UK(M), 5 yrs |
Thanks for that "I can't conceal the way I'm healed, the pleasure I feel when I have to deal with the mercy in you" Depeche Mode 'Mercy in you' | ||
| 16 Sep 06, 9:21 PM toesuckasub UK(M), 5 yrs |
Erm... Interesting points (I'll have to think about that for a while - head hurts now) "I can't conceal the way I'm healed, the pleasure I feel when I have to deal with the mercy in you" Depeche Mode 'Mercy in you' |
